My experience of uni has been mixed at best, I’ve really experienced the highs and lows which is why I think I’m equipped to write this entry. Now listen once and listen good.
Uni isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Dampen your expectations now. If you were clever at sixth form and crave intellectual stimulation from your peers you won’t necessarily get it here. Your peers are more intent on becoming a future burden to the NHS with how much liver damage they could do with the purpley liquid they pass off as beer in the SU.
Uni is like an American high school than you’d think. Recall Alicia Silverstone in Clueless introducing the various cliques to Brittany Murphy. I could give you the entire rundown for campus right up to the coffee addicts who are usually Europeans. Anyway people stick to their own, and with so many international students they gravitate to what they know. These barriers get broken down eventually but this is how it works out at the beginning.
For some unknown reason most people cling on to their boyfriend/girlfriend from back home. Sheer madness as far as I can see, usually these relationships dissolve after the first christmas back home when the inevitable “I’ve met someone else” chat happens.
People aren’t as popular as you imagine. You think you are the only one without friends, everyone else mysteriously knows everyone on ther course and beyond but you. SO NOT THE CASE. Do not be fooled by this. I was SHOCKED when what I supposed to be an exceedingly popular girl from my course said she was living alone in her second year because she didn’t know anyone. It seemed these people talking to her were just accquaintances.
If people use “isms” and throw around Marxist phrases don’t be fooled. Totally emporer’s new clothes. Unfortunately this is the time in life when people start trying to show off their intelligence to make everyone else feel bad, or get in there with these phrases to prove their worth. Unnecessary, we all got into Warwick, what are you trying to prove?
Everyone else is struggling too! You may not believe it but my uni life would have been sooooo much simpler had I known this one piece of information. They just hide it well. If you really are stuck and/or hate your course seriously consider changing it. There is nothing worse then doing something you dislike, being away from home and being in debt forever for a subject you can’t stand. I can’t emphasise this enough.
Warwick has too much choice for societies. Find one and just stick to it.
The girls are cooler and prettier than you – not true. Not everyone has been on these amazing adventures to the Amazon. Ok I remember looking out the window on my first day at Warwick thinking everyone was ultra glamorous. I focused on the 5% of the population that were and ignored the 95% that wore their hoodies and Uggs like some sort of unofficial uniform. Upshot is I spent most of my money on clothes when I could have saved it for trips abroad.
Everyone has a bf/gf. They don’t and even if they do it’s because they are miles away from home, seeking a warm body as a substitute for a family member and live out some marriage on campus where everything has to be done together. You don’t want to be one of those co-dependent people do you?
Don’t do things for the sake of your CV only!!
In three years all this will be over with.