October 30, 2005

China Revisited

My granny, the absolutely admirable embodiment of a Chinese woman of her age (circa 1920s), pulled out a performance tonight I never expected from her. She started off by singing Peking Opera with her fake teeth removed and only one tooth left in her smoky mouth. Smoky mouth but shiny tooth she had. She sounded enlightened, her spirits lifted and mind drifted into another, a better world. After that stunning and amusing act she sat down on a shabby chair next to my mum, the embodiment of communism in her spirit and soul. They chattered kindly; they picked the most innocent people to be the honourable victims of their after-dinner gossip session. But tonight I was around and I was eavesdropping. They spoke of no one else but my MaJong partner – my third gran (my granny’s third oldest sister). They talk about relatives a lot, but tonight it was especially interesting.

“She had good education…” – my gran informed my mum, “she finished primary school, I think”. “But you know what they say, she was a lesbian!”. My gran gave me a suspicious look and then plainly looked away, as if I wasn’t there. And I sat there in the dark, listening to every single word they said, greedy for more details about this innovative gran of mine, who obviously thought needed to emancipate long before the English had their first gay and lesbian parade in 1970s. “She married unhappily…” – my gran continued, “People say she’d been so vicious with her husband that the poor guy couldn’t handle it and passed away. After that she tortured her son until he had to move out.” Right about there I started feeling somewhat proud of my third granny, whose actions were being condemned by the rest of the family, but silently praised in my heart. I’m not a vicious lesbian/man-hater myself, but I liked that spirit of rebellion. I felt like I got to know my gambling pal at a whole new level. I also had a peep at the so often ignored subculture in the great communist China. It sounds like something really worth exploring.

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  1. Durnovo

    Mmmm I'd like to know whether they meant sexually a lesbian or not… because interestingly after the May 4th there seemed to be an almost-acceptable rise in lesbianism, both sexual and non-sexual (check out Miss Sophia's Diary :P ). It could be that your Granny's older sister had non-sexual intense relationships with other women.

    But I don't see why you'd feel proud of her for torturing her son… would you have felt equally proud of her for torturing her daughter?

    Perhaps the way to read it would be that she was very much an old-dragon and the son needed his independence and broke out of his cage to live a free life! How would you feel about her from that perspective :P.


    But an interesting story and you tell it well. Give us more!

    31 Oct 2005, 05:26

  2. The things that people never tell you about your family!

    I swear I'll still be finding things out when I'm 60.

    31 Oct 2005, 09:40

  3. Durnovo: why thankyou! :p I don't feel like giving that story a different interpretation. This one suits me well :)

    Wassup Casey!!! Yeah, I know what you mean. And I think it's totally fun! Especially when you find out about the 'naughty deeds' of your older relatives – always amusing!

    31 Oct 2005, 09:48

  4. xuan xuan wu



    经过邹鹏那里才在"Alex Lu"这里冒出来滴~~^^









    虽然没怎么主动联系过你们,但还是时常会跟现在的好朋友谈起跟你们一起时最开心的事,也许你们在我走之后还有陆续办过小PARTY, 但在我的印象里,跟你们一起过过的 PARTY 虽然都窝在一个小小的寝室里,但实在是很开心!


    其实蛮早就想跟你们联系...但总是不知道为什么就是没有行动 >




    ….你们...还记得我是谁吗? ….

    31 Oct 2005, 15:15

  5. xuan xuan wu



    我的邮件地址怎么没出现捏...? =_=!

    是这个: chilandstudio@hotmail.com

    31 Oct 2005, 15:22

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