Concluding entry on Becoming more Assertive
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Over the last month and a half, since the workhsop on becoming more assertive, I have tried to improve my assertive behaviour.
My first action point was to use a work and exercise routine plan before my holidays in order to act more assertively. Although my exercise plan to go to the gym regularly did not go exactly to plan, I managed to play football and do room exercises as an effective substitute. Moreover, with the use of word quotas and many hours set aside in the library my work routine worked extremely well.
My second action point was to remain in the adult ‘ego-state’ during heated debates. Whenever I found myself in an argument or discussion over the last month or so, I tried my best to remain calm and composed whilst I expressed my view point. Although this did not always go to plan, I made sure I learned from both positive and negative experiences.
My third and final action point was to research into imposter syndrome. I learned that the syndrome was a psychological phenomenon which affects many people’s self-confidence.
Since the workshop on becoming more assertive in June, I have learned that assertive behaviour is extremely useful in completing objectives and becoming a more mature person. Knowledge of the desired adult ‘ego-state’ for example has taught me that remaining calm and composed in heated situations can make you happier and more confident about yourself. Furthermore knowledge of imposter syndrome has put some of my previous negative thoughts and feelings into perspective. The realisation that many people feel this way about themselves is taught me to appreciate who I am and what I have achieved. All in all, I believe that the workshop and action points covered have taught me the importance of emotional maturity.
Hi David,
Well done on completing this module and filling in four blogs for this.
I have enjoyed reading your blogs and I especially like how you tie assertiveness into emotional maturity. It is surprising how many people actually lack assertiveness skills and in fact many adults can still behave like children in so many ways. Learning to be assertive and applying assertive strategies is a life long process but is ultimately rewarding just like you say, that people can feel happier and more confident when being assertive.
Well done on also researching the imposter syndrome and I am glad that this made sense to you and you were able to understand yourself more in terms of this very common condition.
All the best for the future
Carl
01 Aug 2014, 13:18
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