Blog is dangerous
Why do I say so? In Chinese culture, it is dangerous for a leader to let his colleagues or boss know what he is thinking. It is fairly different from western culture which regards energetic, persuasive and innovative character as the indispensible elements. The best leader in china is who can conceal his feeling best. That¡¯s why we seldom see president Hu laugh even smile.
Many Chinese students think European students are arrogant and hardly listen to them, so they keep silent all the time. It is common people feel unconfident when they do not speak fluent English. After the module of change management, I learned I have to change my working ways, I have to influence people surrounding me. The more I can influence the more others will respect you. When I become a leader in marketing strategy in our team, I encountered a lot of challenges from team members. I always give way because I want to keep harmony in our team, and this make me feel unhappy for a week. At that weekend I found if I want to be a leader I should have some skills. The following weeks I developed and applied these skills, controlling the process rather than express personal ideas, approving member¡¯s opinions to seek support.
Now I confront new issues, how can I stand out from the crowd? When there exist excellent competitors, whether should I change my character to be more aggressive and ambitious? I cannot learn leadership, if I really want to be a leader, I have to apply these management skills. Competition is what I really want to avoid, I am afraid for making others hate me. If I am eager to be a leader, does that mean I have to compete with colleagues fiercely, even make them feel disappointed and rancorous. I have no clear answer by now.
Beware of making sweeping statements. I witnessed what I can only describe as an aggressive “Free for all” in a Travelodge in Sydney. It esculated into what can only be described as a bun fight. Our friends had come down to breakfast before us and walked out without having breakfast, the last straw coming when one of their bowls of cornflakes was whipped from under their nose immediately after it being poured out. They walked out in shock and total disgust (they are very mild-mannered people). I will not elaborate except to say that there were a lot of Chinese people in the hotel. You simply cannot tar everyone with the same brush – you get into very hot water if you do.
07 May 2010, 00:15
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