May 20, 2010

Mistery yesterday revelation today

I had a mistery that lingered on my mind until I sunk into sleep last night. The question boardered around the essence of the coaching exercise and the specific question was "how could someone with the same persistent problems as mine possibly profer any solutions?" It might sound unbelievable but I got my answer from the first three sentences uttered by my tutor. In two straight sentences he said "you should not profer solutions when coaching. Rather, you should draw the individual out to solve their own problems". Another interesting lesson I picked up was that every individual has the answer to his/her problem within, they are just too scared to fish it out. I realised that the reason I was confused yesterday was because my perception of the term coaching had been distorted from childhood. I have grown up thinking the coach should always be more experienced and possibly older than the coachee, thus should be in the position to profer solutions. I also realised that there is a significant difference between a coach and a counsellor. From my understanding, a coach becomes a counsellor when he starts to give advice.


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  1. advizing itself is much easier than making a person to analyse the issue and come to some solution….’cos it demands lot’s of time, first, to understand and, second, to actualy drag a person out this dead end he keep bumping in)

    21 May 2010, 01:34

  2. I would concur Temi, that central to coaching and leadership is having an awarness and sense of objectivity, as most people can propose a solution to a problem based upon thier opinion & understanding of it. However the true challenge is not trying to resolve the problem at hand your self, but instead to hieghten the awareness of others allowing them to see new insights and perspectives for themselves. This is so much more challenging.

    23 May 2010, 23:37


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