All entries for Thursday 20 May 2010
May 20, 2010
I had a mistery that lingered on my mind until I sunk into sleep last night. The question boardered around the essence of the coaching exercise and the specific question was "how could someone with the same persistent problems as mine possibly profer any solutions?" It might sound unbelievable but I got my answer from the first three sentences uttered by my tutor. In two straight sentences he said "you should not profer solutions when coaching. Rather, you should draw the individual out to solve their own problems". Another interesting lesson I picked up was that every individual has the answer to his/her problem within, they are just too scared to fish it out. I realised that the reason I was confused yesterday was because my perception of the term coaching had been distorted from childhood. I have grown up thinking the coach should always be more experienced and possibly older than the coachee, thus should be in the position to profer solutions. I also realised that there is a significant difference between a coach and a counsellor. From my understanding, a coach becomes a counsellor when he starts to give advice.