All entries for Wednesday 09 March 2005
March 09, 2005
in a strictly non-religious sense, how much and how far should forgiveness go?
should there be limits to forgiveness? i.e. are there things that should never be forgiven?
or, is the capacity to forgive everything the measure of a truly good person?
personally, i believe that there should be limits to forgiveness in terms of self-respect and how far you let people walk over you. having said that, there are some situations that you can never judge- forgiveness depends directly on the people and circumstances involved.
a classic example: you are in a relationship and your partner cheats on you (drunk or not). should you forgive them?
again, personally i think it depends upon the person, how much you love them, whether it meant anything to them, etc. but genreally speaking, i would have to say no to forgiveness. this is because the inclination to cheat (once acted upon and forgiven) sets a precedent by which the cheater may think less of cheating again, as they think they will be forgiven a second time. (if that makes sense). so, in the interests of self respect, the relationship should be ended in order that you can move on more easily…**
however, it's the having the resolution ans confidence to act in the interests of your self respect that often proves difficult..
**obviously, in reality it depends upon the situation etc.
p.s. cheating's not ok just because zeus did it!