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July 19, 2006

Predestinated hostility, predestinated encounter

Recently watched a cartoon called ďwolf and sheepĒ, it’s about two hostile species establishing true friendship. No matter how disagree from the sheep family, or how disdainful objection from the wolf family, wolf Gabel and Sheep Mei just ran away from their home town, stayed in a jungle, watching moon light every night, and forever.

Have to say, wolf and sheep were much luckier than Romeo and Juliet. Romeo and Juliet from two hostile families, also predestinated encounter, love lead them to their path, they felt in love, but could not last forever. Juliet was going to fool everyone by pretending death, after that she could fly away with Romeo to have a new life, where no fighting, no combat at all. However Romeo thought his beloved was dead, so he ended his life by his sword in front of her coffin. And when Juliet woke up from the potion, what she saw is Romeo’s corpse, so she ended her live by Romeo’s sword, following her lover to another world.
Yes, all coincident caused this poor couple could not be together forever in the earth; but their immortal love just lasts for several centuries as classic. Is it only when our mortal fresh faded, then our fragile love could flare as stars? Is it mortal human being, have to accept the flowery love wearing away in drops as time goes by?

When people trade off love for money, fame, power, someone sacrifices live for love, should it be worshipful? Or it is pathetic? Eventually, love just a luxury, very few people could afford it, most people only could choose the commodity. Hopefully, Cupid will not be unemployed in the futureÖ

宿命的敌对,宿命的邂逅

最近看了一部卡通片,羊和狼的故事。两个敌对的种族,却建立起坚贞的友谊。无论羊家族多么反对,或者是狼家族多么鄙视,狼嘎贝和羊咩排除万难的离开了自己的故乡,一起到一个森林永远开心的一起看满月,永远永远。

如此说来,这对朋友比罗密欧和朱丽叶幸运的多了。同样是敌对的家族,同样是宿命的相遇,爱情让两人结合,却没办法让两人天长地久。本来朱丽叶打算用假死骗过所有人,从此以后改名换姓就可以和罗密欧远走高飞双宿双栖。可惜罗密欧却以为爱人已死,在棺材前自尽。偏偏等朱丽叶醒来的一刻,看到的是罗密欧尚未冷却的尸体,痛哭之余,也同样以死相报。

各种巧合让一对小情侣无法在尘世天长地久,但是他们的爱情却做到了永垂不朽千古流传。难道,只有当肉体消亡的一刻,才能让脆弱的爱情变得光芒万丈?难道,凡夫俗子,便注定忍受当初的爱情,在生命中一点一点的流逝?

当人们为金钱,名誉,地位等牺牲爱情的时候,一些人为爱情牺牲自己的生命,应该说是可敬,还是可悲?原来,爱情不过是生命中的奢侈品,某些人可以负担的起,但是往往更多人只能选择实用品。希望,丘比特日后不会失业。。。。


June 29, 2006

personal space for my singing

Dear all:

I found a nice space to upload 100M stuff, so I put my self singing there, including guitar play and karaoke singing. the link is:
link

by the way, alex you can register one and record your guitar playing there as well, haha.

the space is: www.castpost.com


May 04, 2006

confession and continuous improvement

recently I have been doing research at home, for assignemnts and for the dissertation, at the mean time I downloaded some buddist movies for mental renewal.

in Buddist philosophy, confession and continuous improvement is very important. we should confess everyday, or at least reflect everyday to understand what we have done. something we have done well, something we have done wrong, something in between then we should improve.

how to improve ourselves? there are three points:
1. shame yourself. what is the difference between human being to other being? we will feel shame. e.g. when we did something wrong we will feel shame, when we realised our weaknesses we will feel shame. shame yourself give us an opportunity to look at our heart deeply and clearly.

2, fear. some people will say: no of course not! I wont fear anything! only coward have fear!

yes, maybe you are brave enough to try everything, or handle every situation, or face any difficulty, but this fear is linked with your consciousness.

some people they fear nothing, because they dont believe in karma, causes and consequences. they thought they could escape the law after they did something so called clever, and believe no one could ever know. every concequence has a cause, if people could escape this life, oneday they will still taste the bitter, only matters the time. how can we not fear?

nothing is certain in this world, only death and tax. when that day comes (not the taxation day) even you want to improve or confess will be too late. all your dreams, your ambitions, your reputation, will stop where they were when the death reach his hand to you. time is always so little, and always so much to do, how can we not fear?

3. brave

we always try to give ourselves many excuses to defer day by day. I will do it tomorrow, I will do that next time….not good!
facing our own mistakes and weaknesses plus trying to improve ourselves, it takes bravery. a hero is brave, and a person who try to admit his mistakes also trying to improve is another kind of hero too. mariah carey sang a song hero, that hero exists in everyone, it is our own concsiouness and bravery!

so, continuous improvement one hand need a mentor to advice you; in another hand, you need to believe karma is your witness.


April 09, 2006

knowledge, asset, technology

these 3 are inter-related and interdependent. technology could not exsit wothout proper knowledge and financail asset to develop. knowledge could not renewal or move on without asset (financial) to support. Asset requires knowledge and technology to maintain and develop….

the principle actually is similar to the material vs intelletual consesus. without material suppot intelletual could not last long, without intelletual support material just empty shell. what makes human being became the king of the nature? intelletual, it is the spring of our lives, it's the light of our darkness, it's the oxygen for our soul. however without material support, our body would not be there, so there will not be a carrier for the intelletual.


outsourcing topic

this is interesting topic too, you outsource what you lack, and someone who is good at it offer what you want.

good relationship and marriage should be two ways mutual outsourcing, we both offer each other something we are good at, in the same time we recieve something we lack from each other, hopefully during the whole process we all develop and improve out life, mind, attitude…

(to be continued)


tacit knowledge consideration

this is a very interesting topic, tacit knowledge is more likely to be the philosophy consesus rather a business aspect.

(to be continued, after my PEUSS)


April 08, 2006

the profound sorrow

What is the grief making you so painful?

The profound sorrow

The sorrow deep in your bone and heart

Even in your blood marrow

When someone could not make you stay

Does it mean you donít love any more?

Or you donít have the strength to fight with your fate

What is the furthest distance in the world?

Is the death and alive

Or the distance between the sky and the earth

No, the furthest distance in the world

Is the distance of our hearts

Oppress our emotion

In connection to the profound sorrow


March 29, 2006

5 stories

情况不同

一只小猪、一只绵羊和一头乳牛,被关在同一个畜栏里。有一次,牧人捉住小猪,牠大声号叫,猛烈地抗拒。绵羊和乳牛讨厌牠的号叫,便说:「他常常捉我们,我们并不大呼小叫。小猪听了回答道:「捉你们和捉我完全是两回事,他捉你们,只是要你们的毛和乳汁,但是捉住我,却是要我的命呢!」

(立场不同、所处环境不同的人,很难了解对方的感受;因此对别人的失意、挫折、伤痛,不宜幸灾乐祸,而应要有关怀、了解的心情。 )

Different Situations

There are one pig, one sheep and one cow lived in the save place. One day, the shepherd caught the pig and tries to pull him out. Pig was crying, sheep and cow were annoyed by his noise, said: ďWhat is the matter? He often catches us and pull us out, we never cry!Ē
The pig said: ďThatís completely different! He caught you for your wool and your milk only. He caught me for my life!Ē

(People often cannot understand others in different situations. When you see others frustrated, hurt, painful, please try to care them not laughing at them. )

2、 靠自己

小蜗牛问妈妈:为什么我们从生下来,就要背负这个又硬又重的壳呢?
妈妈:因为我们的身体没有骨骼的支撑,只能爬,又爬不快。所以要这个壳的保护!
小蜗牛:毛虫姊姊没有骨头,也爬不快,为什么她却不用背这个又硬又重的壳呢?
妈妈:因为毛虫姊姊能变成蝴蝶,天空会保护她啊。
小蜗牛:可是蚯蚓弟弟也没骨头爬不快,也不会变成蝴蝶他什么不背这个又硬又重的壳呢?
妈妈:因为蚯蚓弟弟会钻土, 大地会保护他啊。
小蜗牛哭了起来:我们好可怜,天空不保护,大地也不保护。
蜗牛妈妈安慰他:「所以我们有壳啊!」我们不靠天,也不靠地,我们靠自己。

Depend on ourselves

Baby snail asked:Ē Mom, why we have to carry this heavy hard big shell since we born?Ē
Snail Mom: Because we donít have any bone to support us, so we could only climb but very very slow. Therefore this shell is here to protect us.
Baby snail: but why caterpillar has no bone either, she doesnít need to carry this shell?
Snail mom: because caterpillar could become butterfly one day, the sky will protect her.
Baby snail: then earthworm has no bone nor became butterfly one day, why he doesnít need to carry this shell?
Snail Mom: because earthworm could drill, so the earth would protect him.
Baby snail cries: we are such poor creature! There is no sky or earth to protect us.
Snail mom said: Honey, thatís why we have the shell! We donít depend on the sky or the earth, we depend on ourselves!

3、 鲨鱼与鱼

曾有人做过实验,将一只最凶猛的鲨鱼和一群热带鱼放在同一个池子,然后用强化玻璃隔开,最初,鲨鱼每天不断冲撞那块看不到的玻璃,耐何这只是徒劳,它始终不能过到对面去,而实验人员每天都有放一些鲫鱼在池子里,所以鲨鱼也没缺少猎物,只是它仍想到对面去,想尝试那美丽的滋味,每天仍是不断的冲撞那块玻璃,它试了每个角落,每次都是用尽全力,但每次也总是弄的伤痕累累,有好几次都浑身破裂出血,持续了好一些日子,每当玻璃一出现裂痕,实验人员马上加上一块更厚的玻璃。后来,鲨鱼不再冲撞那块玻璃了,对那些斑斓的热带鱼也不再在意,好像他们只是墙上会动的壁画,它开始等着每天固定会出现的鲫鱼,然后用他敏捷的本能进行狩猎,好像回到海中不可一世的凶狠霸气,但这一切只不过是假像罢了,实验到了最后的阶段,实验人员将玻璃取走,但鲨鱼却没有反应,每天仍是在固定的区域游着它不但对那些热带鱼视若无睹,甚至于当那些鲫鱼逃到那边去,他就立刻放弃追逐,说什么也不愿再过去,实验结束了,实 验人员讥笑它是海里最懦弱的鱼。
可是失恋过的人都知道为什么,它怕痛。

Shark and fish
Someone did the experiment before. He put a vicious shark with some fish together in the pond, but using special glass to separate them. At the beginning the shark attacked the transparent glass everyday, he tried to eat those fish but he could not. Every time staff change a new glass when the glass had a small crack, it became harder and stronger material, the shark often attacked till bleed.

Eventually one day, the shark stopped attacking the glass, so the staff removed the glass, but the shark still stayed in his side. So the experiment was off, staff laughed that shark was the most coward creature in the ocean.

But people who hurt in the relationship before all understood why-because the shark doesnít want to get hurt again.

4、 神迹

法国一个偏僻的小镇,据传有一个特别灵验的水泉,常会出现神迹,可以医治各种疾病。有一天,一个拄着拐杖,少了一条腿的退伍军人,一跛一跛的走过镇上的马路,旁边的镇民带着同情的回吻说:「可怜的家伙,难道他要向上帝祈求再有一条腿吗??」这一句话被退伍的军人听到了,他转过身对他们说:「我不是要向上帝祈求有一条新的腿,而是要祈求祂帮助我,叫我没有一条腿后,也知道如何过日子。」

(试想:学习为所失去的感恩,也接纳失去的事实,不管人生的得与失,总是要让自已的生命充满了亮丽与光彩,不再为过去掉泪,努力的活出自己的生命。)

Miracle

A small town in France, it said there was miracle spring water could heal many diseases. One day, a retired soldier with one leg only arrived. People said: ďpoor guy, does he want to beg the God give him another leg again?Ē
The soldier heard it and answered: ďNo! I want to beg the God to show me how to move on my life without one leg.Ē

(Try to accept the fact what you lost, and try to appreciate what you lost. Whatever lost or gaining in our lives, we should try to light up the fire for our future, donít cry for the pass and try to find out the meaning of the lives.)

5、 钓竿
有个老人在河边钓鱼,一个小孩走过去看他钓鱼,老人技巧纯熟,所以没多久就钓上了满篓的鱼,老人见小孩很可爱,要把整篓的鱼送给他,小孩摇摇头,老人惊异的问道:「你为何不要?」小孩回答:「我想要你手中的钓竿。」老人问:「你要钓竿做什么?」小孩说:「这篓鱼没多久就吃完了,要是我有钓竿,我就可以自己钓,一辈子也吃不完。」

(我想你一定会说:好聪明的小孩。错了,他如果只要钓竿,那他一条鱼也吃不到。因为,他不懂钓鱼的技巧,光有鱼竿是没用的,因为钓鱼重要的不在<钓竿>,而在<钓技>有太多人认为自己拥有了人生道上的钓竿,再也无惧于路上的风雨,如此,难免会跌倒于泥泞地上。就如小孩看老人,以为只要有钓竿就有吃不完的鱼,像职员看老板,以为只要坐在办公室,就有滚进的财源=

Fish Rod

An old man was fishing by the river, a kid saw it and came next to him. Old man likes the kid so wants to give the fish to him. The kid said no. old man surprised: ďwhy not?Ē the kid said: ďI want to have your fish rod.Ē
ďwhat you are going to do with that fish rod?Ē old man asked.
The kid said: ďthe fish would be eaten very shortly. If I have the fish rod, I could fish for myself, then I could always have fish.Ē

(You might think he is a clever kid, but he isnít . if he only asked for the fish rod, he cannot even have one fish at all. Why? Because he doesnít know how to fish yet, so only acquire the fish rod is useless. The trick for fishing is the fishing TECHNIQUE, not the fish rod. many people thought they have the fish rod so they have everything. As the kid thought as long as having the fish rod then he could always have fish, employees thought as long as they sit on the directorís office then make them always have money.


March 27, 2006

be a wise girl

【分享】聪明的女人 Be a Wise Girl

如果一个男人开始怠慢你,请你离开他。不懂得疼惜你的男人不要为之不舍,更不必继续付出你的柔情和爱情。
If a man began to ignore you, please leave him. You donít have to devote your love and your heart to someone doesnít appreciate it.

任何时候,不要为一个负心的男人伤心,女子更要懂得,伤心,最终伤的是自己的心。如果那个男人是无情的,你更是伤不到他的心,所以 ,收拾悲伤,好好生活。
Never break your heart for any man who is not worthy r. Heartbreak finally only break your heart not his heart. So be strong and carry on.

永远不要无休止的围着你喜欢的那个男人转,尽管你喜欢得他快要掏心掏肺的死掉了,也还是要学着给他空间,否则,你要小心缠得太紧勒死了他。
Never chase the man you like too close, although you love him terribly deep. Give him space and time, otherwise you will lose him eventually.

当一个男人对你说:分手吧。请不要哭泣和流泪,应该笑着说:等你说这话很久了。然后转身走掉。
When a man says to you: letís finish! Donít cry, you should smile and reply: I have been waiting for you to say that, then turn away.

要相信自己,善待自己,让自己的生活精彩纷呈。不要误认为是要让某个人后悔,而是为了让自己的人生更精彩。
Always believe yourself, treat yourself, let your life splendid. You are not doing this for making anyone regret his lost, you are doing this for your own sake.

对善意欣赏你的男子回报浅浅的微笑。
Please smile back to the people who truly appreciate you.

再郁闷也不要去泡酒吧。一个孤独的女子手握高脚杯或者抽烟,会更添寂寞感与忧伤。
Dong go to bar or night club when you feel so lonely. A lonely woman with a cigarette and wine in hand, only make you feel more lonely and upset.

不要贪慕虚荣。虚荣是一剂毒药,而且会上瘾。
donít go for peacockery, it is drug and you will get addicted.

要有几个死党,独自一人的时候,保证还能有死党为你端茶送水。而不是声竭力嘶的嚎叫为什么说爱你的那 个人不能来陪你。
Have intimate friends, when you alone at least someone could get you a cup of water.

睁开双眼选择你的未来伴侣,如果选错了,立即分开。不要凑合过日,那样会害了两个人。
Open your eyes clearly to choose your partner. If you chose the wrong one please leave immediately, otherwise both of you will get hurt.

外出旅游。旅行中的心灵能更充实。
Go travelling; travelling could fulfil your emptiness.

知道自己要什么,包括你爱的男人。
Know what you want, including the man you love.

宁缺毋滥。不要因为寂寞随手抓一个男人,这对你和他都不公平,而且太缺乏责任感。
None is better than exceeding. Donít find a man because you are lonely, itís not fair for both of you, and lack of responsibility.

对你不喜欢的追求者的示好和关心坚定的说不和拒绝。即使他说,这不关你的事。
Say ďNOĒ to the one you donít want when he courting you, even he says ďitís not your businessĒ.

认真的对待你的工作。工作也许不如爱情来的让你心跳,但至少能保证你有饭吃,有房子住,而不确定的爱情给不了这些,所以,认真努力 的工作。
Be serious to your job. Your job might not make your heart beats like you are in love, but at least your job ensures you have food, house, which love could not ensure. So work hard.

已经错失的好男人不要去后悔,他们不属于你,于是你要睁大眼睛再找一个。
Donít be regret for someone you already missed, if they donít belong to you, then find another one who does.

不要爱上已婚却还对你信誓旦旦说会抛妻弃子迎娶你的男人。如果他们真的没感情,自然会离婚,而不是整日对你说些莫名其妙的话。
Donít fall in love with a married man, even he swear he would divorce for you. If he doesnít love his wife anymore, he would divorce anyway, not because your existence.

情人节或者生日没有人送花也无所谓,不必自己去买一束让花店送来。你可以将买花 的钱买精美的礼物,送给妈妈和爸爸。
Itís ok no one buys you flower in Valentine Day, donít buy for yourself. You could save the money for presents for your parents.

你可以去爱一个男人,但是不要把自己的全部都赔进去。没有男人值得你用生命去讨好。你若不爱自己,怎么能让别人爱你?
You can love a man, but donít give your whole to love him. No one is worthy you to devote your life. If you donít cherish yourself, who else would?

偶尔做美女私房菜给他或者老友吃。但不要天天做,你生来不是为了某个人天天下厨房。
Cook for him when you like, but donít do it everyday. You are not born to cook for him.

偶尔自己唱歌给自己听,好坏不重要,心情爽朗就可以。
sing for yourself occasional, performance doesnít matter, as long as you feel good.

孤单的时候找好朋友聊天、逛街、吃饭。不要让孤寂淹没自己。
When you feel lonely, get some friends for shopping, chatting and meal. It doesnít have to be lonely.

如果发短信息给你喜欢的人,他不回。不要再发。
If you text someone you like without any reply, donít text him anymore.

万一脆弱的不行了,请选好哭泣的对象,不要随便借 肩膀和胸膛。
if you have to cry, please choose a right audience. Donít pick a random guyís shoulder.

从现在开始,聪明一点,不要问他想不想你?爱不爱你?他要想你或者爱你自然会对 你说,但是从你的嘴里说出来,他会很骄傲和不在乎你。
Donít ask him ďdo you miss me?Ē ďDo you love me?Ē. He will say it if he really misses you or loves you. But if you ask him, it would make him proud to ignore you.

不要24 小时都想念同一个人。可以分一点给家人和朋友。
Donít miss the same person 24 hours. Spend some time to your family and your friends.

如果喜欢一个人,在允许的情况下,告诉对方。也许得不到答案,但至少你努力过,将来不必后悔(也许后悔的是对方,呵呵)。
let him know you like him when itís available. You might not have the answer you want, but at least you try and you wont regret in the future.

如果决定离开一个人,行动要快一点,快刀斩乱麻;如果决定爱上一个人,时间拉长一点,看清楚是否适合你。
If you want to leave a person, you better be quick. If you want to love a person, you better be slow to see if he is suitable for you.

如果一个男人对你说他喜欢你,相信他。如果他说不再爱你,也相信他。任何时候,要告诉自己,一个不爱你的人离开,是幸运。
If a man says he love you, believe him. When he says he doesnít love you, believe him too. Always tell yourself, itís lucky to leave a man who doesnít love you.

爱父母,每周一次打电话或者抽时间共进晚餐。(应该在前十条中。)
Love your parents. Call them or have meal with them at least once per week.

不必为某个人选择销毁ID或者失踪。爱和不爱都将继续生活,结束就好好结束,何必苦了自己?
Donít have to banish yourself for someone. Life still going on whatever you love or not, finish is finish, why suffer yourself?

穿有质感的衣服,找有质量的男朋友。他不一定很有钱,但是一定要能让你有安全感和开心。
Buy good quality clothes, and find a good quality man. He doesnít have to be rich or handsome, but he has to make you feel happy and secure.
如果哪个男人说了让你难堪的话,原谅他。一个被原谅的男人最后会后悔失去一个像你这么宽容的女朋友。
If someone said something upset you, try to forgive him. He would be regret he lost a good girl like you.

有一个最少两年内需要达成的目标。有目标的人生不 会太无聊。
At least have one goal you could achieve within 2 years. Without goal life is boring.

如果很不幸遇上了一个以上床为目的,对你始乱终弃的男人,请先微笑,然后鄙视他:你是我这辈子遇见的最龌龊最无能的男人。然后用最美的方式头也不要回的离开。
If so unfortunately you met a man only aim for sex, please smiles first then despise him: You are the most disgusting loser I ever met in the world. Then walk away with your grace.

如果男人以他忙为理由,不来探你的病情,不回你的邮件,不关心你的现状,不能和你承担生活的重负,无法给你勇气。勇敢一点,自动离开。没有什么比自己关心自己来得实在。而一个不爱你的人,你付出的再多,他再好,那也不过是浪费时间和精力。
If a man uses busy as excuse not to meet you or reply your email, not care what you are now and not share the life with you, please leave him bravely.
Nothing is more important than caring you. Love a man who doesnít love you, you are wasting you time.

天真纯洁很好。但是不分场合的天真就会成为白痴行为。
Innocent is good, but if you are innocent in every case, it will become idiot.

学会承受痛苦。有些话,适合烂在心里,有些痛苦,适合无声无息的忘记。当经历过,你成长了,自己知道就好。很多改变,不需要你己说,别人会看得到。
Learn to live with pain. Some words should be buried in heart only; some pain should be forgotten quietly. Experience made you grown.

不要等男人给你买礼物,想对自己好的时候,就自己去买。用起来会更舒心。
Donít wait for man buy you present. Buy for yourself when you want it, you feel much more comfortable.

不要在一个男人离开之后,企图用报复心理去生活。那只会让你的生活乱成一团。正确的做法是比从前生活的更好。并告诉他:你生活的很好,很快乐,让他不要担心。
Donít try to revenge a man after he left you, that only worse your life and your mind. The best way is to live better than before and tell him: ďThank you, I am happy.Ē

有时间的话,去学瑜伽或者跆拳道。前者能让你放松身心,后者可以防身。
When you have time you can learn yoga and tae kwan do, yoga helps you relax your mind; Tae Kwan Do helps you protect life.

爱那个爱你的人。如果只是你爱他,或者只是他爱你。趁早分开。女子不需要他人来假装疼爱,你也不需要假装疼爱某人。
Love the person who loves you. If only you love him or only he loves you, please leave. You donít need someone pretends caring you, and you donít need to pretend caring someone.

如果可以,和相爱的人牵手漫步。在找不到之前,学会自己欣赏风景。
Hold your belovedís hand when you walking in the park. if you donít have one, then learn to appreciate the view.

相信一见钟情的爱情,相信总有一个人会在岁月的拐角处静静的等你。只是你要擦亮眼睛,细心寻找。
Please believe first sight love, believe there is someone always waiting for you in the corner of the world. As long as you see the world with your heart, and be patient.

做个睿智的女子。学会从容面对生活。积极面对生活 ,生活定会如你所愿,如同明早,太阳依旧会如时升起。
Be a wise girl, learn to cope with challenge and be positive. Life would be as you wish, as the sun rising in the east.


March 20, 2006

on the way to the journey is more important than the destination

when we try to arrive cerntain destinations, did we ignore thebeautiful viewduring the journey? When we try to seek for cerntain outcomes, did we ignore the processes?

one philosophist said:our beginning and destination are all the same-from birth to death, what makes the differences are the view during our journey.

human being often make such mistakes. when we study we only care the marks rather than what we have learnt; when we compete in sports we only care who won rather than challenge ourleves; when we have relationship we only care the workout rather than single detail we share and enjoy….

Yes, we kept the peel and threw all the essential parts of our life, how silly it is!

From today, I want to enjoy my view on the journey, no matter where is my destination, there must be something beautiful worthy to explore….


Robustness, Six Sigma, Engineering

since the product improvement using six sigma, the modules invlove a lot of engineering system design, and I found it's very interesting!

robustness Design and Development even made me want to be an engineer in the future, but my Mths, Physics are very bad, so I know just dreaming.

Now I want to know more about engineering knowledge, and I admire engineers! our lives rely on engineering environment, and the engineers are there to maintain, develop, innovate them, I like Robustness this word, haha!


February 24, 2006

socrates talking about breaking up sorrow

  • Socrates walked on the street, saw a young man was very upset there sitting under a tree, he asked: what's wrong young boy?

man: I broke up with my bird friend

S: I see, but that's normal. if you dont feel any sorrow after you broke up, there is no taste at all for this love isnt it? however I think you jump into this droke up sorrow more serious than you were in love.

man: ah, just lost something one step before I almost had it, such pity, such depression, you were not me how could you understand what difficulty I have experienced?

S: lost is lost, there is nothing you could do more. why not move on, there are still many grestness waiting for you.
man:I will be waiting here, until the rock melt by the sun, until the ocean changed into land, until she changed her mind and come back to me.

s: but maybe this day never come.eventually you would just watch her goes more and more further with another guy, there is nothing you could do about it.
man: then I will suecide to show my fidelity!
S: if you really did that, you lost not only your lover but also youself in the same time, you will lose double!

man: How about ruin her life? if I could not have her no one else could either!
S: this only make her run away from you further, but your intention was to get closer to her.
man: then please tell me what should I do? I do really love her!
S: really lover her that much?
man: yes
S: then would you want the person you love have happiness?
man: of course I do!

S: what if she think leaving you is the happiness she could have?
Man: thatís impossible! She said she find her happiness once when she is with me!
S: that was before she used to think, but now she doesnít think so any more.

Man: so, you mean she has been deceiving me all the time?

S: No! she has been faithful to you all the time! When she was loving you she wish to be with you. Now she doesnít love you anymore, therefore she leave you. There is nothing more faithful than this. If she doesnít love you but still pretend she does, even marry you and have kids with you, that is deceive!

Man: but who give me compensation for my lost? I have wasted all my sentiments!

S: oh no no, your sentiment was never wasted, hence compensation never exist. When you give your sentiment she gave hers too, when you brought her happiness she did the same.

Man: But she doesnít love me any more now, I still love her so much! Itís not fair !

S: absolutely not fair at all! I mean to the one you still love now! You have your right to love her, she has her right to love you too. But now you want to use your right in the same time reaving her right! How unfair it is!

Man: but as you see now, I am the one who is suffering, suffering for her!

S: suffering for her? She is happy now, I think you should say you are suffering for yourself! My boy, doing something for yourself but use other excuses, itís not ethics!

Man: so you mean, from the beginning all my fault?

S: well, yes, kind of! If you could bring her the happiness she wont leave you. You should know no one wants to refuse happiness.

Man: what is happiness? I gave her everything! My heart and my soul! You know why she left me? Just because I am poor!

S: you are a very healthy person, why you donít try to get money?
Man: but she didnít even give me a chance! Isnít she evil?

S: of course she is. But fortunately you get rid of this evil person now, you feel happy my child.

Man: Happy? How can I be? After all I was dumped, it made me feel humiliatory.

S: no, young people should only have pride, not humiliation. Remember, being dumped doesnít mean itís not a good thing.
Man: please explain.

S: once I saw an elegant suit in a shop, I llike it so much. When the sales person asked me if I want it , I said: the material is too bad, I donít want it! In fact, just because didnít have any money in my pocket. Young boy, maybe you are that elegant suit.

Man: you are good at comforting people, but you still cannot help me out from the suffer of this break up.

S: Yes, I am sorry that I donít have this capability to help you, but I could recommend a friend who has such capability to you.
Man: who ?

S: time. Time is the greatest mentor of human being. I have seen many many people were suffering by breaking up, it is time who help them to heal their pain, and chose a best partner for them, finally they all deserve the happiness they suppose to have.

Man: I wish I could have that day too. But how should I move my first step?

S: to thank that person who dumped you, and bless her.

msn: Why?

S: because she gave you the fidelity, and gave you a new chance to search your happiness.

After those words Socrates left, and the rest journey should be completed by this suffering young man.

(I wish you could learn something from this dialogue, not only in the love aspect, but also in every aspect in our life time.)

[转帖]苏格拉底谈失恋的哲学

苏格拉底想看看2000年后的不同。
但一来到人间就见到一位年轻人,茶饭不思,精神萎靡,其状甚哀。
苏(苏格拉底):孩子,为什么悲伤?
失(失恋者):我失恋了。
苏:哦,这很正常。如果失恋了没有悲伤,恋爱大概也就没有什么味道。可是,年轻人,我怎么发现你对失恋的投入甚至比对恋爱的投入还要倾心呢?
失:到手的葡萄给丢了,这份遗憾,这份失落,您非个中人,怎知其中的酸楚啊。
苏:丢了就是丢了,何不继续向前走去,鲜美的葡萄还有很多。
失:等待,等到海枯石烂,直到她回心转意向我走来。
苏:但这一天也许永远不会到来。你最后会眼睁睁的看着她和另一个人走了去的。
失:那我就用自杀来表示我的诚心。
苏:但如果这样,你不但失去了你的恋人,同时还失去了你自己,你会蒙受双倍的损失。
失:踩上她一脚如何?我得不到的别人也别想得到。
苏:可这只能使你离她更远,而你本来是想与她更接近的。
失:您说我该怎么办?我可真的很爱她。
苏:真的很爱?
失:是的。
苏:那你当然希望你所爱的人幸福?
失:那是自然。
苏:如果她认为离开你是一种幸福呢?
失:不会的!她曾经跟我说,只有跟我在一起的时候她才感到幸福!
苏:那是曾经,是过去,可她现在并不这么认为。
失:这就是说,她一直在骗我?
苏:不,她一直对你很忠诚。当她爱你的时候,她和你在一起,现在她不爱你,她就离去了,世界上再没有比这更大的忠诚。如果她不再爱你,却还装的对你很有情谊,甚至跟你结婚,生子,那才 是真正的欺骗呢。
失:可我为她所投入的感情不是白白浪费了吗?谁来补偿我?
苏:不,你的感情从来没有浪费,根本不存在补偿的问题,因为在你付出感情的同时,她也对你付出了感情,在你给她快乐的时候,她也给了你快乐。
失:可是,她现在不爱我了,我却还苦苦地爱着她,这多不公平啊!
苏:的确不公平,我是说你对所爱的那个人不公平。本来,爱她是你的权利,但爱不爱你则是她的权利,而你却想在自己行使权利的时候剥夺别人行使权利的自由。这是何等的不公平!
失:可是您看的明明白白,现在痛苦的是我而不是她,是我在为她痛苦。
苏:为她而痛苦?她的日子可能过的很好,不如说是你为自己而痛苦吧。明明是为自己,却还打着别人的旗号。年轻人,德行可不能丢哟。
失:依您的说法,这一切倒成了我的错?
苏:是的,从一开始你就犯了错。如果你能给她带来幸福,她是不会从你的生活中离开的,要知道,没有人会逃避幸福。
失:什么是幸福?难道我把我的整个身心都给了她还不够吗?您知道她为什么离开我吗?仅仅因为我没有钱!
苏:你也有健全的双手,为什么不去挣钱呢?
失:可她连机会都不给我,您说可恶不可恶?
苏:当然可恶。好在你现在已经摆脱了这个可恶的人,你应该感到高兴,孩子。
失:高兴?怎么可能呢,不管怎么说,我是被人给抛弃了这总是叫人感到自卑的。
苏:不,年轻人的身上只能有自豪,不可自卑。要记住,被抛弃的并不是就是不好的。
失:此话怎讲?
苏:有一次,我在商店看中一套高贵的西服,可谓爱不释手,营业员问我要不要。你猜我怎么说,我说质地太差,不要!其实,我口袋里没有钱。年轻人,也许你就是这件被遗弃的西服。
失:您真会安慰人,可惜您还是不能把我从失恋的痛苦中引出。
苏:是的,我很遗憾自己没有这个能力。但,可以向你推荐一位有能力的朋友。
失:谁?
苏:时间,时间是人最伟大的导师,我见过无数被失恋折磨的死去活来的人,是时间帮助他们抚平了心灵的创伤,并重新为他们选择了梦中情人,最后他们都享受到了本该属于自己的那份人间之乐。
失:但愿我也有这一天,可我的第一步该从哪里做起呢?
苏:去感谢那个抛弃你的人,为她祝福。
失:为什么?
苏:因为她给了你份忠诚,给了你寻找幸福的新的机会。说完,苏格拉底走了。留下的路便由这位失恋者自己去走了

(个人从中得到了很多的感悟,苏的话语很令人深思,不仅恋爱是这样,
个人认为有很多事情都可以从中得到借鉴。
每一句哲语对于不同人来说会有不同的启发,希望它能对大家的生活有所启示)*


February 23, 2006

thanks to everyone

Thank you to everyone! to Paul, all my classmates, my friends in china and EU, especially my mom.

cintinuously being depressed and upset are useless for me, and I should move on living happily for people who care me.

I will concentrate on my study from now on, and after graduate I will go back China to live with my mom. during these years I ignored her too much, it's time to be a good daughter.

thanks to everyone again.


some reflections

I dont know if this is true, best students get the hardest problems?? then I wish I am just a normal student, I dont need to experience hardest problems, beside I am not a good student anyway.

I remeber there is a story:

a farmer everyday pass by the jesus status, he said: I wish I could take your place, then you dont need to be hang there so hurt.

oneday Jesus seems heard his word and said: ok, you can take my place, but you must promise you cannot say a word no matter what you see and what you hear.

the farmer agreed, so he was there to listen to everyone now. many many people come to pray and talk about their problems, the farmer wish to give solutions, but he didnt eventually.

One day a rich man came over and pray: please let me keep my treasure forever! then he left, but he forgot his wallet farmer wanted to tell him you forgot your wallet, but he didnt.
there. then a poor man came and pray: please help me! I dont have any money! when he was going to leave he found that wallet. "dear juses! thank you very much! "then he left happily. farmer wanted to tell him: it's not your wallet! but he still didnt say nothing. then a young man arrived, he pray: I am going to far away now, please let me safe. at this moment, that rich man came back, and said: where is my wallet? you must have my wallet! give it back to me!

the Farmer finally could not keep quiet anymore, he said: he didnt get your wallet! then he explained what happened, and the rich man got back his wallet, the young man rush to the ship.

Juses said: come down! you are not qualified to be there anymore!

why? farmer asked: I just did the right thing!

the right thing? juses said: that rich man use those money for prostitution, that poor man use those money for feeding his whole family! more over, if the young man miss his ship, he could save his life! because that ship will sink in the sea! now you mess everythign up , because you think you just did the right thing!

sometimes, we always believe we just did the right thing, and we always try to change what happening to our lives. actually, everything is predetinated. what was set is the best choice for us already, if we try to change thing according to what we think it;s the best, maybe we could wourse the situation.

I just want to follow my fate, whatever happen, I believe it;s the best choice for me. there will be something, someone, somewhere….are waiting for me.

cherish what I have, because I would never know what will happen tomorrow.


January 27, 2006

Product improvement using six sigma

what a busy week! I will catch up more ideas later, now need to cook!

January 21, 2006

I want to hold your hand and walk through our lives end

I want to hold your hand and walk through our lives end

I want to watch the stars with you till the sky falls

I want to visit every conner in this world till we couldn't walk

I want to stay in your arms till I could not move

With this hand, I will lift all your sorrows

Your cup'll never empty,for I will be your wine

With this candle I will light up your way in the darkness

With this ring, I do wish to become your wife

After the rain I saw the rainbow
After the darkness I saw the dawn

After my previous searching I found you

After my life ends I still want to be yours

Cupid called, you took my heart
Venus called, you took my breathe away
shakespeare called, you inspired me
Homan called, you changed my history

My darling, I want to stay with you
till all our hair become grey
till wrinkles full of our faces
till my life fire extinguishes

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This poem is dedicated to my beloved husband Ed _


January 12, 2006

chanllenge yourself

after I submitted Statistics and Financial analisys control those assignments, I found i have passed the challenge!

my year one I failed the statistcs subject, year two and three I failed my finanical management and international financial analysis. these 3 subjects drugged my average mark down to 51.2 only, wherewas my other subjects all above 60. I want my 2.1 degree back!! only if I could turn back the time.

I dont want to forever live under my shadow, I hate numbers it is well known, but I want to challenge myself. I wish I could pass these two assignments, that's the most improvement for me during these 3 years, coz I could overcome the fear!

after I did the statistics assignment, I think it is actually quite practical tool to be used in the reality, powerful tool. if I dont need to use the posson distribution again, haha.

the FACS assignment is …..difficult, but interesting. I cannot believe I could write 1500 words against the financial statements! I did translate the numbers into english!!! or I should say I did interpret !!

so form today, when I look at a financial statement, I could understand if this company is doing well or not, I could understand if this company have large loans or not, if this company market share is positive or not….

if I didnt write the assignments, I would never know I could achieve this!


some reflecttions about TQM ad Business Exellence

recently I HAVE bought m;any books from Amazon, much cheaper than buying from waterstone _

When I was studing my undergraduate degree, TQM this subject interests me the most. that's why I chose our EEE course. however after I look at the TQM book and Management and Quality Control this book, I have some queries and reflections I would look to blog.

Total Quality Management appeared earlier than business Excellence, and seems Business Excellence cover more holistic topics than TQM. TQM seems concentrate on Quality system, quality control tools and communication, teamwork those aspects, looks like the Process enabler and people enabler in comarison to EFQM model.

TQM foundation said the model for TQM is: Culture, communication, commitment, process, customer and supplier. I thought it seems to be the alternative names for leadership, partnership, people, Customer, process. what missing here are strategy, CSR and key performance result.

TQM looks more likely to be developed from Deming philosophy, whereas EFQM model more likely to be developed from more than Deming theories, for instance PDCA, learning organissation such theories.

MOst of my friends ask me what I am studying, I say business excellence, they dont understand at all. I say TQM, they still dont have a clue. I say, ISO9001 is as mall part of that, they will say: oh I see! quality assurance!!

such narrow and pathetic preception for most of people. quality assrance yes is quality, but quality certainly further beyond this "tangiable" thing. we are talking about quality both in terms of tangiale and intangiale aspects, those intagible things are more difficult and more important to be developed, improved for a company.


December 16, 2005

christmas party

the christmas party was great! be honest it was the first time I have had such social activity in uk during my entire study years.

It was the first time that my course director attend and had fun with us, and first time that I hang out with none-chinese classmates. (dont call me discrimination but I never hag out with local classmates before in newcastle. either they were not interested, or I thought they ae too wide…haha)

I remember when I was in switzerland I hang out with my German teacher and llclassmates for babecue events, such great memory. and I am glad that our EEE course is a small group, there is no gangs or paty separation, no others gossip around your back…..

I feel very happy since I study at warwick, and started te course. I have to say the course is quite difficult for me and a bit intensive. but being good and study hard supposed to be criteria fr every good student isnt it? we study together, cook together, go to sport centre together, shopping together…we learn from each other, not only the academic things butalso social things.

to all my classmates: today we might feel a bit hard and difficult in this subject, but in th future when we look back, all of these would become the most beautiful trousure of memories. whatever harsh we are fcing at this moment, just lead us to understand, what is bitter from the sweet.

All the best to our master degree!!!


December 05, 2005

the falling angel

Heaven is still highly in the sky,
No one knows what happened there,
But today I met a beauty in the yard,
The falling angel.

I ask why she falt,
She said all because of love,
Since sheíve loved a man here,
She canít find herself.
She drawed his picture in a frame,
She went to the earth everyday.
But God knew this got angry,
So he drove her away.
She lost her wings for fly,
She felt down from the sky,
She canít find her lover,
The falling angel cried.

Angel, please donít cry,
In this world thereíre so many guys.
Put your hands on your heart,
How much you could bear mind

Love takes time,
Love canít only depend on outside,
Love needs understanding,
Love is endless wide.
Love built up with truth,
Love built up with heart,
Love built up with fate,
Love built up with faith.

She tried to understand,
Maybe itís too deep for her,
But if she loves a human,
She must clear the entity of love.
My falling angel,
I know youíre not happy,
I know love is difficult,
I know you canít fly without wings,
But I know you can survive.

Sometimes love would be denied,
Sometimes love would be destroyed,
Sometimes you canít choose your life,
Sometimes tears couldnít impress his mind.

My falling angel was surprised,
She never knew what is the price,
Iíd rather hurt you to tell you the truth,
Better than I lie you that love is so wonderful.
Think about that, my falling angel,
What you need and what you want,
Love is beautiful because it canít last forever,
Let the experience become memory,
Maybe you could see the immortality.

She said good-bye and gone,
I never seen her again.
Maybe she is back to heaven
Maybe she is still in the earth,
Maybe she is still alone
Maybe she found her lover.
But Iíd never forget her beautiful eyes,
Sparkling with sunshine.
My falling angel.