February 17, 2006

Has Feminism Hurt Women?

Writing about web page http://my.opera.com/khankrumthebulgar/blog/show.dml/129036

Linked to is an interesting article, by a career woman, on how feminism has hurt her.

Here are a few interesting quotes

Far too often, it seems to me, the unwitting price of female emancipation has been heartache, stress and a life spent chasing false promises

Thatís what happens when we start to stray from the truth of the universe, as created by God. Men and Women are different, have different roles, think differently and have different biology. We canít say that men and women are equal in all aspects, when this just isnít true

Sandra admitted that the divorce settlements at the top of the league were having a trickle-down effect. "I think that it has created a groundswell of anxiety in men, and it is certainly in my experience putting men off getting married at all". So, by supporting and perpetuating an increasingly unfair divorce system, we are in effect putting men off marriage – the institution most women still believe makes them happier and more secure than any other. How sad.

I would personally say that this doesnít apply to me. I (as a man) donít currently feel put off by the divorce culture that exists, but maybe thatís because of my faith. Put simply Iím expecting marriage to be for life, with only a few reasons for divorce permitted (aldultery being one). I also desire to (eventually) marry a women who believes the same. Also Iíve not experienced divorce in my close family, so I think that I have less fear of it happening to me.

And so my journey had brought me full circle, from the past generation to the future one, and the thread running through it all was a startling realisation that women are covertly contributing to our own unhappiness. So why had we put up with it for so long? Because to tell the truth felt like a betrayal of the core promise of feminism, an admission of failure. But women haven't failed: it's just that our expectations were unrealistic. We set the bar too high and so have spent our lives crashing into it. The simple truth is that we can't have it all. We can't have everything we want, when we want. (emphasis added)

I think the last quote is the most pointient. We canít have everything we want when we want. In fact, many of the things we really want are the most damaging to us. We want to rule our own lives, but this is the most damaging thing we can ever do.

From a studentís point of view, we want to live the student life now, living for now, living to excess and partying hard. But this is so very damaging to us. We end up with large amounts of debt, that sometimes we just cannot service. We want something for nothing (as evidenced by the anti-fees campaign that essentially says ďI donít want to pay for my time at university, so someone else mustĒ).So often I think that a more sober mind in students would save so much heartache in latter life.
Iíve seen so many throw-away relationships in my time at university that I am saddened. People in relationships for the here and now, with little thought of the future. Not to say that Iíve been perfect in this and other regards, but Iím in my 5th year of watching the folly of students, and Iíve seen much.

We want to define for ourselves our sexuality, without realizing that god designed us to work a certain way, and that when we go our own way it damages us. We drink and smoke and party hard, neglecting the temple that is our bodies.

Maybe a much more sober mind among students is needed.

Thatís it for now.

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  1. Without feminism there would be no women at university.

    17 Feb 2006, 20:30

  2. We set the bar too high and so have spent our lives crashing into it

    Wanting equality is setting the bar too high? If you think feminism has hurt women, try looking at a culture where it hasn't yet had any influence.

    All in all, what you've said is utter nonsense.

    18 Feb 2006, 09:29

  3. I think for every woman who feels a bit stressed by the so called have-it-all culture (not a feminist precept, feminism is about equality not overloading women) you will be highly likely to find dozens of women, in places where feminism has not had the success it has had here, who would gladly ask for the chance to be treated as individuals not property or baby producing machines.

    If men are scared of marriage because of divorce stats then that's a problem with modern men, not with women.

    And I cannot really comment for everyone at this university but personally I'm racking up huge debts on such debaucheries as my rent, the utilities' bills and food, and I know more than a few people who are in the same boat.

    18 Feb 2006, 12:17

  4. kellymac


    That is patently untrue. Women have been able to attend university almost as long as men have. The lie the feminists told you left out the part that ONLY SOME MEN AND WOMEN had access to higher education. The majority of people did not.

    09 Sep 2006, 00:10

  5. dahoco

    Maybe you women ought to go FUCK yourselves!

    26 Mar 2007, 08:05

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