如何鼓舞您的孩子

校园生活和朋友可能影响孩子的信心。用这些方法鼓舞您的孩子：

*相信自己的孩子，并表现出来-让她知道她是一个有价值的，可爱的人。

*给也赞扬和积极的反馈-你的孩子用你的评价衡量她的价值和成就。 ”干得好，这是很难，但你做到。” 是幼小耳朵里的音乐。安慰你的孩子，犯错误是可以的，是成长的一部分。

*运用积极的倾听，仔细聆听，重复你听说过，以确保您理解并给予积极的提示，以鼓励您的孩子继续。

*确认您的孩子的感情-和帮助口头上她表示。

*批评她的行为，而不是你的孩子-这是很容易落入这个陷阱。但太多的批评，告诉你的孩子，她是一个很糟糕的人，事情发生因为她自己的愚蠢。长时间后这是非常有害的，要清楚表达，你只是不喜欢她的行为。

*尊重你的孩子的利益，即使他们似乎无聊。真正关心您的孩子的朋友，和在学校发生的事情，并提出意见，以显示您正在聆听。

*接受你的孩子表示任何恐惧或不安是真正的-即使他们似乎微不足道，不要只放在一边。如果您的孩子说， ”我数学一点儿也不好”，

”你显然发现数学的难，我可以怎样帮助您？ ” 。

*鼓励独立-鼓励你的孩子抓住机会和尝试新事物。成功很大鼓舞了进步的信心，有时你的孩子需要从她的错误中学习

*与您的孩子一起笑， 而不是笑她。

*专注于您的孩子的任何成就，游泳，音乐，能够成功的任何事。

School life and friends may give confidence a knock. Help give your child a boost with these ideas:

• Believe in your child and show it – let her know she’s a worthwhile, lovable individual.

• Give praise and positive feedback – your child measures her worth and achievements by what you think of her. “Well done, that was hard, and you managed it” is music to young ears. Reassure your child that it’s OK to make mistakes and that it’s all part of growing up.

• Practise active, reflective listening – listen carefully, repeat what you’ve heard to make sure you understand and give positive prompts to encourage your child to continue.

• Acknowledge your child’s feelings – and help her express them verbally.

• Criticise behaviour, not your child – it’s very easy to fall into this trap, but too much criticism tells your child she’s a bad person and is causing things to happen because of her own stupidity. This is very damaging if it goes on for a long time. Be clear that it’s an action you’re angry about or behaviour you don’t like.

• Respect your child’s interests, even if they seem boring to you – take a genuine interest in your child’s friends, and what’s happening at school, and comment to show you’re listening.

• Accept any fears or insecurities your child expresses as genuine – even if they seem trivial to you, don’t just brush them aside. If your child says, “I’m useless at maths” say “You’re obviously finding maths a struggle, how can I help you?”.

• Encourage independence – encourage your child to take chances and try new things. Succeeding gives a huge boost to confidence, and sometimes your child will need to learn by her mistakes.

• Laugh with your child – never at her.

• Focus on your child’s successes – swimming, music, whatever she can succeed at.

Jiao Liu : 14 Jan 2009 14:59 |  Tags: Education |  Comments (0) |  Report a problem