September 28, 2004

To go out? Or not?

This is just something that has been bugging me. In my kitchen, the question: "Are you going out tonight?" is a common one, and when someone answers no, it is automatically assumed that they are in some way unwell, because of course, no one could possibly not want to go out by choice?!?
Okay, so this may be a minor point, but it is something that I have been pondering about. Why is it only considered a 'night out' if it
a) involves vast quantities of alcohol, or
b) lasts until 2am?

I spent a really enjoyable evening just sitting and chatting to a couple of new friends, but because we were tired and came back to the hall at 9.30, it couldn't possibly have been a good night….

Oh well, I'll climb down off my soapbox now.
I'm enjoying this blogging thing, great for letting off steam!


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  1. I agree on the enjoyable evenings chatting to people thing, I have spent many a good evening watching films with friends from the corridor, rather than going out. And I don't drink, so I guess I've never had a 'good night out' …

    28 Sep 2004, 22:31

  2. Well said. I used to be one of those people who was surprised when people could have a good time without drinking. But hey, you gotta grow up eventually :)

    God I'm old :(

    28 Sep 2004, 22:37

  3. I totally agree with you. :) I find that more friendships are formed around a kitchen table with a packet of biscuits (or some alcohol if people /really/ want it – I'm not a big fan myself, but have nothing against people who are) and some random chitchat than over several hours of very loud music, dancing, and drinking.

    28 Sep 2004, 22:54

  4. Yeah, it is very true. You almost feel a spoilsport if you don't go out. Staying in and chatting is good, but if i tried that i would be the only one in! That's a big shame :( lets hope after fresher's fortnight it dies down a bit.

    28 Sep 2004, 23:14

  5. I totally agree – going out to the union is fine occasionally, but personally I'd prefer a coffee or a beer with some friends, somewhere I can actually (Shock! Horror!) talk to people and hear what they're saying.

    (Welcome to Chemistry – where they make you sign a form when you buy lab grade ethanol, saying that you're not going to drink it!)

    29 Sep 2004, 09:29

  6. We had a great scheme at our uni where you could rent a tv and dvd player so that kitchen groups could have a night in. We found that most people would choose to stay in if they thought they didn't have to talk to other people sober!

    A good night in is a better way of really getting to know people.

    29 Sep 2004, 09:40

  7. Well, I've been staying in to revise for my Maths diagnostic every night so far this week … I don't think that it's that people thing that the only way to have a good time is to try and drink yourself to death, just that it's the easiest and most popular way, and therefore the one that they will expect most people to follow.

    Anyone who wants to see films instead, come to Cryfield Hall 2 room 020, I've got quite a few _

    29 Sep 2004, 13:08

  8. Well, I've been staying in to revise for my Maths diagnostic every night so far this week
    I don't think that it's that people thing that the only way to have a good time is to try and drink yourself to death, just that it's the easiest and most popular way, and therefore the one that they will expect most people to follow.

    You have a good time revising for a maths test?

    29 Sep 2004, 21:20

  9. No … actually it was hellishly difficult, and I hated almost every moment of it. My point was intended to be separate from that, that was just an indication of how I'd been spending my free time.

    30 Sep 2004, 15:38

  10. James

    Is that the first year diagnostic test? If so, then Malcolm – don't do it to yourself. It's not important enough/difficult enough to get worked up about. Plus you get to retake it every week until week 7. (If) This is your first week at uni, worry about exams in your final year! (That's when the maths gets really tricky). After the first few weeks/months of uni people become less willing to meet and chat to new people. So use the opportunity now to get to know people, whether it's through staying in and chatting or going out to the union…

    30 Sep 2004, 15:53

  11. I have a huge problem with going out and drinking every night because apart for the fact that it is unhealthy it makes you feel like shit. Also you get to know people much better and you ca hear each other talk.

    30 Sep 2004, 17:57

  12. "Also you get to know people much better and you ca hear each other talk."

    I find that too unsurprisingly! Nice entry, nice comments all round. I much prefer sitting in the kitchen chatting (as opposed to shouting at the union) and waking up in the morning for 9 am lecture without feeling like you had 0 sleep.

    30 Sep 2004, 19:23

  13. Sometimes i like to go out .the only problem is that i have to return to my house late at night. and i don't think it is safe to walk alone at night. so i have to give up and stay in my bedroom.
    I really envy people who have friends to chat in the kitchen. Because i live off-campus with two students who are doing their PhD and always busy.
    By the way, can i borrow film from you Malcolm Sanders?

    01 Oct 2004, 10:10

  14. well i'm glad others feel the same. although i have enjoyed my nights out i'm slightly worried that it'll continue like this. at the moment i'm trying to alternate: one night drinking, one night sober. although most can't comprehend the sober part! it just makes drinking all the more fun though if you have occasional breaks from it.

    02 Oct 2004, 13:55

  15. I really enjoy staying in and talking with friends – some real conversations-rather than have a night out drinking heavily. I'm afraid I can't get more social. It concerns me a little bit but I still find it hard clubbing.

    02 Oct 2004, 22:15


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