Today's Lesson: Balance
It seems today, that all you see, is violence in movies and sex on tv…
Actually I noticed a few months ago that I have entirely stopped watching tv. Sure, I've seen the odd thing on there for five minutes if someone else has switched the thing on, but my days of actually heading over to the box in the corner and flipping it on seem to be a thing of the past.
If there isn't an old adage that expresses the thought that 'you need to be happy with, nay love, yourself before you can truly succeed in having a relationship with anyone else. You can try, but oft times you will find that you are looking at finding a partner as a means to cure your own happiness and I'm sure I read somewhere in my studies of ethics that treating people as means instead of ends was the path to the dark side' then there should be.
Why is it that people feel that they need someone to make themselves happy? Is it that they feel unattractive without a doting partner staring into their bluey greens? Perhaps if you feel unattractive then you should use the power of logic to aid yourself instead. If you feel unattractive then there are too possible solutions:
1. Adjust your appearance to conform more to your current idea of attractive.
2. Adjust your current idea of what is attractive.
Unless you do one of these things the situation shalt remain the same no matter who is staring into your eyes. I've heard tell that its hard and such things, but in the end it comes back to the logic, somethings got to give one or the other or nothing changes. It maybe goes without saying but; feel attractive and you will be more attractive. These are my current thoughts on the magical rollercoaster of relationships and attractiveness, at least today.
Anyways that was a bit of a tangent, I'm putting it down to my advancing years, I'm losing that razor sharp focus. This blog has been something of a graveyard for a while now, I keep thinking of good blog ideas and then not finding the time, or making the time to actualise them to you shiny, pretty folk out there in blogger land. For example, almost an aeon ago I was interviewed by John Dale about blogging and I rambled on endlessly about my secret, forbidden love for the wiki. Detailed plans were constructed in my head about how to persuade the world of the might of this idea, but in my head they currently remain.
Somehow this year I managed to bring up my grades from last years performance and achieve my way to a 2.1 in my degree, instantly unburdening myself of a huge pile of stress I'd been carrying around since I realised pre-exams that I wasn't smart enough. Thankfully I was wrong and I am indeed smart enough, and now there is no more education planned for me and the world outside awaits. Your move Dan. Well thats not what I'm blogging about today either.
What I'm blogging about is balance, I think that this is one of the most important skills one needs to enjoy the fullness of life, and one of the hardest. People are generally pretty unbalanced to start out with and everything in life wants to encourage this situation. In our working lives we are encouraged to become ever more specialised, exelling to greater and greater heights in a smaller and smaller range of skills. Relaxing everything wants a piece of us, wants to consume more and more of your time. DVDs have hours of special features, Big Brother has 24 hour live feeds, newspapers are so long (with supplements up the wazzoo) that it would take you a week just to finish the saturday edition. Then there is the internet, holy grail of time wasting inconsequence, the great soother and information king.
Our friends and our lovers compete for our time, our own mental well being also demands attention, there are family commitments and cultural events. The multiplicity of competition for our time resource grows larger and more rowdy every day that we grow older. Yet time always seems to move faster today than it did the day before, as a child the days would stetch into infinity, more time in each hour than in an entire day today. Nostalgia makes the past seem better and we spend ages trying to recapture a perfect moment that really never was.
The only weapon in the fight for time are the holy scales of balance. That elusive perfect mix of activities where we feel all of the demands on our day have been satisfied and there exists no great mental 'to-do' list with an impossibly large number of items, all late on their due date. Balance holds the key to much of modern happiness and everything is against it. If you let it, almost anything in life will consume you, devour your life and leave you empty.
Everyone needs to fight for balance.