May 22, 2010

Summary of leadership and excellence …..

I have been thinking , reading and writing about Leadership and Excellence for 3 weeks.  Since I  have chosen Paul's module, I really let him to be my personal coach into the module.  I can definitely say that I was there with the bottom of my heart to learn something and  to have new light upon his wisdom.  Most of the times I really impressed with his charm , even  I used my imagination about him :)  , but sometimes I felt that I bog down with his repetitions.   Moreover, one  day I have thanked to him to make me feel important in his class room , but other day I did  feel angry about his soldier style, approach or perspectives.  In conclusion I think I needed a hero within story of my master degree. That's why I chose him spontaneously to be a hero in my story. Yet I forget  an important point which is there is no hero for anyone or any story. I should believe in myself more. In the end everyone is human being and man or women which prevent perfection. 

On Friday I was planning to thank  him again with my own way , but last minute I change my mind and I have chose to be quite , because I thought that he did not discover or feel what I have, because he does not want it.  Then I thought that why I should bother him!!! 

In the end I asked myself what I did learn after all these hotchpotch of ideas . Still I have no idea about it.  Now being a leader is more complicated than before It was. What is my perfect leadership definition after all ? Still same definition  is  adequate to describe leadership  with full faith and credit. The most important point is I can not run away from  my hunger for knowledge. Still I want to discover leadership of excellence.  Also no matter what  Paul made me think about something and to contribute  my leadership perspective with his own way.  

Before beginning of new journey I would love to repeat my leadership definition gain ;

A leader is a dealer in hope.

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

Now time to start self discovery without any outside influences, because in the end life is about self discovery and choice....... 

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  1. Full points for creative definition “A leader is a dealer in hope”. but dont U think its more of a character thn quality or attribute of a leader?

    24 May 2010, 00:30

  2. Paul Roberts

    An interesting reflection on your experience Demet. I think that it was wise not to choose a hero for your masters journey for that would imply that you would try to model your approach to that of your hero, and as you write, none of us is perfect. Thus, it is important to find your own voice and believe in it, be true to it. By all means receive feedback from others and develop yourself, but don’t chop and change your approach at the whim of others in order to be liked more. People have to accept or reject you for who you really are, not for some act. I think that 40,000 + publications printed on leadership over the last 40 years indicates that the subject is far from being definitive, and if we wish to lead we must be prepared to study ourselves and the effect that we have on others and make changes that are congruent with our very being.

    I would have valued your feedback on my repetitions and soldier style. Wouldn’t it have been a good opportunity to practise your skill of providing constructive feedback? Despite trying to be receptive to the feelings of others, often we wear masks that hide our feelings and, therefore, it is important to create an environment in which feedback is welcomed. I know that you felt that the public feedback in the module was polite and non-contentious, but perhaps some personal coaching went on too….

    You clearly have a passion for the topic, and so I am sure that as you continue to gather your thoughts your own practice of leadership will become clearer to you, and as long as you remain open to new experiences and reflect on them, your practice will develop and grow stronger.

    26 May 2010, 09:46

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