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May 18, 2010

18 May 2010

I am really struggling to understand why people scare to share their real opinions about something. I am sick of watching same scene of destructionall the time in everywhere. When I was younger I was thinking education makes difference , but today I do understand that education does not make difference for some people. Still lost of well-educated people are walking around with millions of insular prejudices. Also these people have positional power or educational power or financial power or linguistic power....etc. Still there is more doubt about their humanitarian concerns after all. 

Today we had the HOTEL case study.  In the beginning of the case our leader was so pushy and he has acted as a dictator to us. Some times he was so rude with his voice and sentences to others.   His  communication with the team members  was  totally awful. Most of the time he listened to himself  rather than the team members. He decided to collaborate with only one person within team. Neglecting other three members caused some invisible conflicts and bizarre conversations, that's why from time to time  I was surprised by his dictatorial power. This part is not as interesting as to be real item of on the agenda for today , because where ever you go , you might find similar type of personalities which give us  smooth and tender impression in the beginning of the story , after that positional power lets off fireworks  evolving processes which is called as turning back to the reality.  Actually deeply in somewhere  these type of personalities hide dominant side of their soul . So there is no point to add extra feedback about our team leaders, because It will be irrelevant remarks. 

In reality  today only one thing makes me feel sad which is lack of communication and honesty  within our group.  Two more people were thinking that our leader attitude was strange and rude.  Moreover  they have complained about his dictatorial power , but no one gave him actual feedback. I was the only person who  gave feedback. I chose to be honest about my feeling. In the end I was the one who  had to pay the bills as nonsense talker.   

It does not matter what I am talking about , whether my idea and opinion make sense or not . At least I am brave and bright enough person to thank others or to apologise from  others. I am not trying to make something more complicated than actual basic form.  I am here from the bottom of my heart which will be good enough to learn something from mistakes...

Frankly I am feeling tried to turn over and over within same endless circus show.... In the end I come out against this falsity....

Tired with all these, for restful death I cry, 
As, to behold desert a beggar born, 
And needy nothing trimm'd in jollity, 
And purest faith unhappily forsworn, 
And guilded honour shamefully misplaced, 
And maiden virtue rudely strumpeted, 
And right perfection wrongfully disgraced,
And strength by limping sway disabled, 
And art made tongue-tied by authority, 
And folly doctor-like controlling skill, 
And simple truth miscall'd simplicity, 
And captive good attending captain ill: 
Tired with all these, from these would I be gone,
Save that, to die, I leave my love alone.

Shakespeare 66 sonnets

Feeling Sun Shine in Leadership Excellence….

First of all I would like to thank to Ben who has encouraged me with his comment in my blog. Feeling empathy over the my blog with a stranger is amazing. Ben makes me feel  visible person on the earth with his wisdom and thoughts.

Second point that I would like to mention here is what I felt in Leadership and Excellence module today.  Working with a different team was a bit of fresh air after long dark ages. Since the beginning of my master course first time I have learned something. Not only did I enjoy the simplicity of the game , but also I felt my power on someone. All these feelings remained me what I have got.

I think  digging learning part of the story will be useful for everyone. Today question was  do we have to be  followers , before to become an affective leadership ?  We try to find out an answer for this question , we had a long discussion session. My answer was  to combine them together like science and art, because I do believe that everyone can be a leader and also follower at the same time it depends on point of your view. Moreover  thinking about followers or leadership  over and over is pointless like egg and chicken story which one came first. This part of the lecture was not an important  part which was a reason to think about it.

Time management and making a common agenda were profound learning points for me. I felt that If I had a good time management plane and common agenda before meeting for the team , which was leading by me , I would have felt more accomplishment of a task after all. I would be able to lead more cleverly , If I had handled with these two main issues before meeting. 

In the end I can say that I will never ever forget or underestimate what I have got. Also I will ever never be unaware of common agenda and time management.

One more thank for Paul as well. When ever I share my idea about something, he listen to me without any prejudices. I read his body language and gesture that makes me and my idea as important as others. It was such a tremendous feeling which encourage me to participate more in class.

Here is my another favorite quote for Paul .....

''  Since in order to speak, one must first listen, learn to speak by listening. ''

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