October 02, 2007

Halp (or How do I meet People?)

Well, I’m sitting in the Learning Grid (and have been since 6.45am-ish) and as a start of term procrastination measure have rediscovered Warwick Blogs

For those reading who don’t know me (which should be all of you) I am a 4th year Chemistry student who should have graduated last lear. Long story short, I was ill, had to take time out- now I’m back and feeling like a fresher with no Halls or lectures to meet people in..

Now I’m unfortunately not one of those people that relishes long days spent in my own company reading and the like- I just don’t work after about 3 hours alone time.. I end up here, for example.

So the problem comes down to this; I need to meet people, and the usual avenues are limited, as is my time. Excluding lectures and residence there are a few ways..

1. Randomly speak to people at bus stops/cafes etc and hope they are responsive.
Too risky, I’m a scaredy-cat, and 4th years aren’t supposed to need to put effort in to be social…

2. Wait to be randomly spoken to
Um, could take a while and if i were, they may just be hitting on me/asking for directions etc

3. Latch on to one of the few people you vaguely know, and hope they don’t think you’re too much of a stalker when you want to meet up every other day (or that you’re hitting on them.. that’s bad too)

4. Join a society (this is the solution most of the people I have asked for advice give)

Problem is, all the societies I’ve been interested in I have already joined, experienced the cliques, and misunderstandings (a friendly female does not equal the love of your life Compsoc members, no really)

I really don’t want to become the crazy student who visits the careers drop-in all the time because she just wants someone to chat to…

So…. Halp.

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  1. Evening class? No, no time… A sports soc! Rowing!

    02 Oct 2007, 08:36

  2. my noodle-esque arms would certainly complain at rowing, but yeah, sport may be the (tiring and painful) answer

    02 Oct 2007, 08:44

  3. Mathew Mannion

    Societies are the answer (sport or regular), since you’re pretty much guaranteed to meet someone with similar interests as you :) Especially if you pick one of the more social societies – as great as RaW is you don’t meet up with other members all that much.

    02 Oct 2007, 09:42

  4. Stefan Bon

    simple: 1st atomic pubcrawl is next week tuesday. 19:30 rootes, or 20:30 varsity cov city centre

    02 Oct 2007, 16:50

  5. Announce a blogs social one friday in Rootes, we used to be able to draw quite a crowd.

    02 Oct 2007, 18:49

  6. Commentjack: How about an “old” bloggers night?

    02 Oct 2007, 20:44

  7. Would first-time-bloggers-whos-friends-have-all-graduated be allowed? :D

    02 Oct 2007, 21:09

  8. Assuming you have a sense of humour, join the Comedy Soc – thier socials mostly involve going and watching comedy, so even if you hate every other single person there you still get a fun night out of it. It’s how I got through my 4th year when 90% of my friends had graduated (okay not entirely true – I ran the society, but it’s close!)

    03 Oct 2007, 03:44

  9. Blogs social indeed. Somebody was heckling me to organise one of those, though I can’t remember who it was. Somebody who knows Mat. I was incredibly drunk. Start of term syndrome. Oh wait, it was Olivia van Nieblablablabla. Anyway, a blogs social, for old times’ sake, would be welcomed by me.

    03 Oct 2007, 16:11

  10. I was planning a fifth birthday party for blogs, but obviously that’s a couple of years off and doesn’t solve the existing issues.

    03 Oct 2007, 17:10

  11. I propose a blog social on christmas day. Bring me presents. xxx

    03 Oct 2007, 22:48

  12. Onken?

    04 Oct 2007, 18:15

  13. Word

    04 Oct 2007, 19:32

  14. Could I get you an open source alternative?

    05 Oct 2007, 06:31

  15. Open source Onken would be intriguing. Designed to work just like the real thing, but somehow better.

    That, or an absolute buggy mess. Eww… bugs in yoghurt.

    05 Oct 2007, 09:47

  16. Sarah Wells

    Where do you live? Do you share a house with people? Are there students on your street? Do you have a local pub?

    06 Oct 2007, 17:31

  17. I live with people who have graduated, and in Stivichall (not a popular studenty area tbh)
    Not trying to sound like a complete moper but after 4 years of Uni I’m not rich enough to afford many nights at the pub any more!

    Have joined a few socs, and am being extra friendly (with no stalker undertones I hope) so hoping all is well

    07 Oct 2007, 00:27

  18. Sue

    What I’d do if I were you Catherine is sing:-
    “OH what a beautiful morning
    Oh what a beautiful day
    I’ve got a beautiful feeling
    Everything’s going my way!”
    and then I’d probably go on to
    “People all over the world
    Join hands
    Start a love train” etc etc.
    I’d actually do that for real, in fact I’ve already done it, stalker undertones be damned.

    07 Oct 2007, 10:20

  19. Join LARPs!

    08 Oct 2007, 15:17

  20. Sue

    What’s LARPs?

    08 Oct 2007, 18:25

  21. Sue

    I wouldn’t bother unless you’re technically minded, Catherine. It stand for Linear Accelerator Research Programme.

    08 Oct 2007, 22:27

  22. Actually it’s the live action role play society, apparently it’s about so much more than hitting each other with foam clubs and fibreglass swords.

    09 Oct 2007, 06:23

  23. It’s about rolling d20s, then hitting each other with foam clubs and fibreglass swords?

    09 Oct 2007, 12:27

  24. Hey, hmm… yeah, for girls (not being sexist here) it may look “interesting” to speak to random ppl on the street?

    You don’t need to spend money to go to pub… Top B is still free?

    About the drink thing – tell you a trick… I used to pick up those unfinished drinks that had been left all over and started to pretent it was mine and talked to people in the pub :) Haha …what a weirdo I was… but hey… manged to meet some friends and there were some lucky nights too! (wink)

    This is the Colin home page

    10 Oct 2007, 22:59

  25. brenda

    im not in university yet…but i wonder,
    am i gonna end up like all of you here??? please god help me!

    im kidding i actually do talk to random people anywhere i am. ive met some people that way..but some weirdoes too. So… it can be fun. but do join societies. theyre safer

    11 Oct 2007, 04:27

  26. If you end up like me, you already have my sympathies.

    11 Oct 2007, 09:22

  27. “Im just a little blogger seeking contact…”

    26 bloody posts and nobodys asked you for a coffee yet! Whats all this hiding behind massive “Blog-socials” on christmas day? Funny. Slightly ironic the way youre asking for somebody not to go… have you joined societies yet… and like the first response is…

    “Societies are the answer ” (Mannion)

    If I still attended warwick id meet you.

    15 Oct 2007, 00:42

  28. To be honest Amanda, with socials there is a sfety in numbers thing which you don’t get with individuals meeting. And like you, most of us who have contributed to this thread aren’t actually students any more either.

    15 Oct 2007, 06:41

  29. Sue

    I’d be up for a blog social, I might feel a bit sheepish at first because I’ve a feeling I’d be the oldest one there but that would soon become immaterial. I’m not sure about Christmas day though.

    15 Oct 2007, 07:42

  30. 26 bloody posts and nobodys asked you for a coffee yet!

    I don’t do meeting people for coffee. Only Onken. ;)

    15 Oct 2007, 10:42

  31. Sue

    What people choose to consume when they get there is immaterial (I do have other words in my vocabulary), surely it’s the meeting of people and minds that’s the important thing, Luke.

    16 Oct 2007, 07:26

  32. Sit down next to a random group of people in the graduate. Make sure there are empty pint glasses strewn around the table. But not so many that the party’s winding down. Giggle, bat your eyelashes, blush (if you can do this on command… all I have to do is think of James Hughes, try it) and say something to the effect of, “Hi. I’m bored. Who are you?” It helps if you have NO dignity, self-respect, or FRIGID HORRIBLE BRITISHNESS WHATSOEVER.

    Or, if the arts centre cafe is full, sit next to the best-looking-yet-intelligent-seeming guy (studies show people are far easier to visually peg down than you’d believe) (yes, studies show that) and ask if he can pretend to be your date for a while because you’re trying to brush off another guy. Pretend the stalker is approaching and then ask in a frantic whisper if he would be willing to kiss you. Well, actually, that’s more about how to get a date. But I bet you wouldn’t say no to a hot date.

    ...think I’m going to try both of these today.

    Oh, by the way, if you aren’t as hideously overconfident and easily amused at yourself as I am, just attend as many nice studenty left-wing protests and demonstrations as you can; chances are you’ll bond with wonderful people by voicing your discontent. Not that I spend all my time reading Scientific American, but studies show that people bond more easily over sharing negative opinions than they do over sharing positive ones. Don’t you hate marmite?

    Oh fuck I just re-read your blog and your #1 destroys all olivian suggestions.

    Well, get some confidence woman. Oh and blog social—hell yes?

    23 Oct 2007, 12:38

  33. Heh, thanks Olivia
    As far as the scaredy-cat-ness goes, I can be pretty confident when I need to, so I’m sure something could be conjured up. Thanks for the tips, will try it on a day when I’m feeling silly :D

    23 Oct 2007, 13:56

  34. James Hughes

    I don’t recommend the thinking-of-me method. Rumours have it that if you repeat my name ten times – even just in your own head – I appear miraculously in the room beside you and start eating your brains.

    24 Oct 2007, 13:07

  35. What happens if a brainless person repeats your name 10 times?

    25 Oct 2007, 11:40

  36. An imaginary friend, perhaps? I’m sure most people wouldnt mind conjuring up Hobbes in their heads.

    27 Oct 2007, 02:47

  37. Trudie

    Imaginary friends are usually somthing thought of in your psyche when you are unsure about something or someone. I could be a new situation that you haven’t experienced before making you anxious.

    27 Oct 2007, 22:19

  38. Sue

    This was the other thing which was brought up this evening and I found very interesting because whereas the other lady and I both had imaginary friends as children the two men didn’t have imaginary friends but when they wanted to work things out in their minds they sometimes had imaginary conversations in their heads with friends they actually had but weren’t there at the time. I found this quite intriguing and they were quite intrigued about our friends who were totally imagined and said “What name did you give them.” and it turns out that both our imaginary friends were nameless but I do vaguely remember that in my case he looked like a little elf. I’m always intrigued by the differences between men and women.

    28 Oct 2007, 22:26

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