All entries for Thursday 04 August 2005
August 04, 2005
Last year I went to visit my family in Colombia. While I was there I spent a lot of time with my male cousins, who took me out and basically told me about their lives and about things there. I mean I knew about the country but more the social modern aspects of the country that did not agree with my familys moral views.
One of the things that really shocked me was that they told me that most of the girls, especially (and obviously) the girls from rich families normally had lots of plastic surgery; breast enhancements, deriere enhancements, nose jobs etc.
The other thing that I was suprised to find was that they told me that a lot of girls, not some, but most of the girls that they had ever known were all after money. By this I mean they were after a man with a lot of money who would buy them all the things that they would like. The women there see love by what the man buys them. The more jewellery and expensive clothes that the man buys for them, the more he loves them. Or more plainly the more they love them.
From things that my cousin's also said, the women there also see it as a great shame to do jobs such as waitressing.
Personally I do not understand this behaviour. I was shocked that the women there could be that way and I remember commenting that women here were not like that, to which my older sister said that they were. Perhaps I am blind.
But I don't understand this at all, I probably do have some rather antiquated ideas about the way people should be, but I believe that we should be happy with the way that we are.
Personally I am happy with me, I know I'm not perfect, in actual fact far from it, but I don't see the need to have operations to make me happy. Similarly I do not believe and have never believed that money brings you happiness.
Yes, I do like to buy things and like most people I need money and sometimes I do want to have more money to buy some other menial thing. But money is just that, something I need, not something I live for.
I would never degrade myself, (for that is what I believe it is), by going after someone romantically, or as a friend, just because they have money or status. I honestly do not see what can be achieved by this.