The girl in the toilet

I guess this is a blog that mainly applies to girls, but I guess a really really drunken girl (or maybe not so drunk) girl has stumbled into the mens.

But often on a night out, you can go into the toilet and you can find a girl in the toilet having typical self doubt.

'I don't like what I'm wearing',
' I'm too fat'.
'I'm ugly' etc..

But the point of this blog isn't to moan at those girls, because what they say is perfectly normal for women. But this blog is just to say thankyou to all those girls in the toilet who don't laugh or sneer at the drunk girl in the toilet, but reassure her and tell her she's beautiful, or pick out a physical trait that they would like to have and compliment her on it.

Oh yes, at one time or another I have been that girl in the toilet, so I am saying thankyou to all those wonderful people out there who just try to make my night, and other girls nights better and who knows maybe I too have reassured them in a similar way.

: 22 Oct 2005 18:49 |  Comments (3) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

Trouble with my landlord

I absolutely LOVE where I am living. Its half an hours walk away from uni, has an enormous garden, the people I'm living with are great, my room is quite big and comfortable, but…...

Oh yes there's always a but.
At the moment we're having problems with our landlord. He has blocked our driveway and that of our fellow neighbours, who are also students. So now we can't park in the drive, I have had to park down some quiet road somewhere and when I often come home very late by myself walking back along quite dark roads isn't very nice.

So why has our landlord done this. Well it all comes down to money, yes he wants more money from the university for us to park in the driveway. Well if this isn't enough, before the actual parking barrier was errected it was laying on the ground in the entrance of our drive and we were instructed not to touch it in any way lest we should damage it and have to pay for it. So yesterday one of my housemates girfriends damaged her car on the driveway, so now there's engine oil all over the driveway and where we have been walking in it, over the entrance hall carpet.

There is no way I'm paying for that!

On Thursday while we were playing 'I have never..' I didn't drink when they said, "I have never said bad things about my landlord", but now I can definately say, that yes I have said bad things about him. He has been so incredibly selfish.

But still, I wouldn't want to move from here. I love this house, I love the people I'm living with and I'm still so happy to be here with them all!

: 22 Oct 2005 14:18 |  Comments (1) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

Buying drinks at the union

Follow-up to Sexism from Alis in Wonderland

So previously I said that the uni was different to most bars as they didn't make any preferances towards men or women when buying drinks. Well since coming back to uni I've realised what I said before was a bunch of crap!

I was shocked and suprised when it took one of my housemates (male by the way) over 15 minutes to get our drinks and the only reason we got our drinks was because he asked a girl to buy them for us. It has never taken me that long to get a drink.

But one thing I think it comes down to is the mad crush around the bar, I have found that I am able to squeeze myself to the front whereas I have never seen a guy do this. Maybe its because the guys don't want to do this, maybe they can't, I don't know.
But now I see why so many guys asks girls to buy them their drinks. It really does take a shorter time.

: 22 Oct 2005 14:10 |  Comments (1) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

If only life were like a hindi movie

I love watching foreign films, and last Sunday I went to the cinema in Coventry to see Salaam Namaste (greetings – I think!).
This was not my first hindi film, but considering most of the other hindi films I'd seen in the past were in black and white, so I was suprised by the very modern thems presented in the film.

But life would be so much fun if it were like a hindi movie. Well, why?
Well there's all that singing and dancing for one, good looking people everywhere (who wouldn't object) and life is always interesting (with those rivetting, slightly soap opery type plots).

Ahh but it's back to regular life now, with assignments, lectures, jobs, money etc. but who says there can't be singing and dancing throughout the day….....

: 05 Oct 2005 23:24 |  Comments (2) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

Why oh Why ~ Societies

Why oh why am I joining all the alcohol societies.
Real ale – I hate ale, but the tshirt looks cool and it'd be fun to help at the real ale festival and the socials look like fun.
Free spirits – so I like shots, but if I learn how to make cocktails it'd be fun
and the strangest one of all:
Wine and whisky appreciation – I don't like wine or whisky, I hate both of them, but I think that it'd be cool if I could appreciate them and be able to tell if they're good or not.

Other societies, well there's too many, salsa, latin, break dancing, salsa, streetvibe, mathsoc (um doesn't quite fit in). I'm just trying to decide which ones to keep. So last year I hardly went to any, and this year it looks as though I'm planning on doing too much.

: 05 Oct 2005 23:20 |  Comments (1) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

What to do now that i have the internet

One of the first things I organised when I came back to uni was the internet, I was desperate to have it as I was so used to having the internet from last year.

So now after abotu 2 weeks of being here I have the internet and now that I have it, I have no idea what to do with it. I remember when we didn't have the internet and needed to find something out we'd always say, "If only we had the internet". It became a kind of joke, and now that I do have the internet all the things I was thinking of doing have now gone. So I decided to fill some of my empty space (I really should be doign some work), with writing a completely pointless blog on how happy I am that I have the internet.

Yes I am so happy, I can now chat to my friends, who unfortunately most whom have no intenet. So yay!!! But hopefully they will do soon.

: 24 Sep 2005 10:48 |  Comments (0) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

Sexism

Various times this holiday (and during the previous holiday), I have been driving along roads that have only one-lane when I come across another vehicle. I have found (in agreement with my mum), that some not all of the men drivers in the other direction expect me to reverse and then when I allow them to get passed don't express any thanks. You could say that it could happen to both men and women, but from my experience I have found that my dad has never had this problem whereas my mum has, as well as having abusive comments yelled at her for no apparent reason.

Similarly why is it that men have to yell at women walking along a road, I really don't understand it.

However although I'm moaning about this, I can't really complain as similar things happen to men.

Male friends have often complained to me about how girls get served quicker at bars (by male bar staff) than guys (I haven't noticed this at uni). Similarly if there were a war I'm sure that men and women would not be made to recruit at the same time, the men would be made to recruit first.

So I can't really say I have anything to complain about because men and women will suffer equally but from different things.

Personally I'm happy with the way things are.

: 07 Sep 2005 19:22 |  Comments (1) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

Being unobservant

For some reason I am incredibly unobservant when it comes to people that are close to me. I often fail to notice things like a persons new haircut, or the fact that they've lost weight and one time I failed to notice for 3 weeks that one of my closest friends had had her braces removed.
However I seem to notice new things in strangers straight away. Like the random people who I have no idea who they are, but I always see them around, I notice if they have a new haircut.

I remember once meeting someone and thinking that they were really pretty, but then as I got to know them they started to become uglier. Similarly someone who I didn't really consider pretty started to become pretttier the more I got to know them.
I've always found it strange trying to recall what I first thought of someone when I first met them..

In the same way I can't look at my parents in any other way than they are my parents. I think that my problem is that as soon as I've got to know someone I stop seeing them as they are, they're personality comes into it and for this reason I am unobservant.
It's that or the fact that I come from a family that is generally unobservant to the people around them, my mum who is the most obsevant one out of my parents, failed to notice my dad had shaved his moustache off until he mentioned it.

So if any of my friends are reading this and have ever been insulted by me not noticing something new about them, I'm sorry, it's really not intentionally done.

: 04 Sep 2005 10:36 |  Comments (0) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

Simple things

A few weeks ago I went on a bike ride with my dad and a family friend. We were gone for about 3 hours in which time we cycled to our 'local' shopping centre and returned.

That night when we were discussing the cycle ride, when my dad and our family friend were both quite drunk they both said that the best part of the ride and the day was when we had stopped in our neighbouring village to eat plums that we had found on the floor.

My dad said that it was his idea of heaven.
Although I can't agree with them that this was the best part of the day (I don't have one), I can appreciate why they found it the best part of the day.

It's simple things that make you happy, like the way my younger brother sometimes hugs me for no reason, or when a random stranger in the street smles at you.

My dad always says that he's the richest man on earth for he is happy and he isn't happy because he has money or good qualifications (because he doesn't have these). I often think that he's happy because he has us his family but I never ask him.
But it is because of my dad that whenever anyone asks me what I want to achieve in life I always say happiness. For come what may you will always have that even if everything else in life falls apart.

: 02 Sep 2005 16:23 |  Comments (1) |  Close comments |  Report a problem

You never know enough

Since starting university I've realised that I don't know anything at all about life. There was a point a few years ago when I thought that I was mature and that I knew enough about life to be considered an adult, upon reflection I can realise how childish that belief was.

Since going to uni I have realised more things about myself and life, some of which have contradicted with ideas I'd had previously. These conflicting ideas have left me confused for I don't know which way is right. But I guess when it comes down to it there is no right way, just the way that best suits you.

I have also realised that I will be learning new things for the rest of my life, from new people, new places, new experiences and I really don't think that this is a bad thing. Infact I think that this is the best thing and if this means that I never become an adult, better that way as I'm happier doing this.

: 02 Sep 2005 16:14 |  Comments (0) |  Close comments |  Report a problem