November 03, 2008

Incident

Initially I thought I will not blog about the incident but then after contemplating about it myself and talking to Paul I realised its important to blog about this as it may help others who went through a similar incident.

This Friday while I was walking towards my on campus accomodation an incident occured. A guy from far called me an terrorist. Initially I was taken aback. I did not know what to do. I first thought to go and confront him for calling me a terrorist but then I realised that he was with a bunch of friends. He probably was drunk as well. I did not take it to heart. Instead of feeling bad for my self I felt bad for him.

I just feel bad for people who are ignorant and view any south asian person to be terrorist.

I just wanted to tell people who have had similar incidences to not let such things get to you. Other aspects of life are too beautiful to let such things affect you :)

Keep Smiling :)


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  1. Confronting never works; what I usually think is that if they were capable of understanding you, they wouldn’t call you terrorist in the first place anyway .
    You did the best thing and I totally agree with you.

    03 Nov 2008, 15:02

  2. Wow. Abhi. Look like you really care about this incident deeply that you even discuss with Paul.Acutally I got an incident last Saturday as well. But I am not too happy to remind this as it’s just piece of unhappy thinng. Not everyone in the world are nice and polite,we must admit it. There are always someone who is not ” deep enough”.
    I went to Bath with my American friend last Sat,and then we knew a new friend from Greece through another friend. The girl appraently ignored my existence and not even replied to my friendly greeting, but she just never hesitate to show her curiosty and passion on my American friend. At the end,she even “kidnapped” my friend and went somewhere by themselves without saying goodbye at all. I was a bit frustrated at that time but I did nothing wrong, so I know that’s her personality problem not mine. I don’t need to feel sorry about it. I thought about perhaps it’s due to my poor spoken English, but her English is not much better than me as we are all non-native speakers. I may feel more reasonable if she was native speaker and treat me like that, but she isn’t. I just learnt a lesson that the world is certainly not an Utopia, there are still many people need more self-cultivation,including me( coz I felt frastrated about her misbehaviour)

    03 Nov 2008, 21:45

  3. sorry to hear about your experience abhishek, when things like that happens, it make me really angry and sick, and it’s hard not too think about it. Once I had someone who try to intimidate me by driving his car directly towards me . He stopped in the end and then drove off laughing with his friends.

    03 Nov 2008, 21:49

  4. Thank you Aykut for your support. Its terrible what incidences happened to Louis and Ritina.

    Ritina--- firstly I would like to tell you that you are a nice person and a great friend so it was the other girls LOSS who did not even try to know you. Such incidences have happened to me back home in India as well where some people just ignore your existence. It is definately thier LOSS as they missing out on knowing good friends. Infact I was just thinking the other day that sometimes in life we spend too much time thinking about people who probably do not care for us and miss out on precious time which we could have used for more valuable things such as working on your Final Projects… :D or spending time talking to your family or friends.

    Louis -—what happened to you was terrible. For that guy it was probably just fun but anyone could have got badly injured if something had gone wrong. Thank God that you are alright.

    04 Nov 2008, 00:02

  5. is it halloween party??

    04 Nov 2008, 08:33

  6. No it was not a party. I was walking on the road and I was dressed normally.

    04 Nov 2008, 14:29

  7. Sue

    Someone told me about an incident which happened to a good friend of theirs. I won’t give people names but it happened to a young man and it’s one of those things which shocks so much at the time that you don’t react until afterwards. He was in a pub and went to the toilet, while he was washing his hands in front of the mirror another man of roughly the same age came and stood at the basin next to him and said “Mental note to myself never to wear that shade of green.” He had a green shirt on. I was quite upset at hearing this story because he’s quite a sensitive young man and I thought it was such an unkind thing to say. Luckily he has a friend who he felt able to confide in.

    04 Nov 2008, 22:03

  8. Shameful.

    And it`s the way cowards do it, in groups. I`m sure he would not have the guts to do so if he was alone. I`d like to know who this guy was and invite him to a public place and ask him to repeat it, in front of everyone. coward.

    And congratulations for reacting in such a nice and pacific way, “Gandhy style” and to bringing this forward and making it available from everyone to read it.

    04 Nov 2008, 22:49

  9. Sue

    Actually after thinking about it I’m not sure whether he mentioned a mirror being there of if it’s just the way I imagined the incident happening when he told me about it.

    04 Nov 2008, 22:58

  10. I assume this was on campus. I assume you’re sure it was “terrorist” and that the person aimed it as an insult and wasn’t shouting about something else.
    If it happened the way you say it did, then that person does not deserve the privilege or opportunity that they enjoy in being where they are at Warwick.

    05 Nov 2008, 11:32

  11. Thank you Francisco…..Yeah Mahatma Gandhi’s policy of Non violence is what I believe in as well. By confronting him I just meant I wanted to ask why he said that…....

    Gavin I am very sure that the guy said “terrorist” loud and clear…...

    05 Nov 2008, 13:17

  12. James Taylor

    Have you approached Security about this incident? They may be able to trace the party back on CCTV and follow him back to halls (assuming he is a student here) and find out who he is.

    This sort of stuff just really, really is not acceptable :( I’m glad you’ve not taken it to heart!

    05 Nov 2008, 14:50

  13. this kinda of thing is exactly why there is so much hatred in this world… next time take a picture with your phone of this idiot and make sure he pays for what he’s done to you !

    05 Nov 2008, 23:58

  14. I have not approached the security. Are there CCTV every where on campus? If the camera records sounds then I will have evidence. If it does not record any sound made or word said then I wont have any evidence.

    Louis—-I am hoping that this does not happen again so I do not need to take anyones picture…hahaha

    06 Nov 2008, 15:57

  15. It’s shame to hear about that. But it’s good that you didnt lose your temper.

    When I was in Sheffield, I had two sutuations similar to this one, just because i was with my family and we are arabs…

    One of them was a group of kids making fun of us while eating, I really didn’t want to lose my temper to kids, because that’s stupid, however, it is still a bad thing to do to people who are visitors in the UK.

    The other one happened on the same day and around the same time, we had a group of young men pointing and laughing. This is not my first time in the UK, but it is the first time i get into situations like this.

    I am not sure if we have any right to call police over such thing?

    Glad you didnt take into heart and just acted like that :)

    17 Nov 2008, 09:25

  16. Hey Abdul,

    I am sorry that you too had to face such a situation. Its terrible

    I am not sure if you can call the police or not.

    19 Nov 2008, 13:07

  17. Simon Harper

    Hello Abhishek,

    I’m sorry that you have experienced this sort of behaviour, especially here at Warwick. I’m also glad you chose to walk away as I would not be at all surprised if the name caller was trying to provoke a reaction. In response to AbdulRahman’s point: yes, you certainly have a right to call the police (and some might say a duty). In my opnion your experience is clearly an example of a hate crime, as defined on Birmingham City Council’s site (http://www.birmingham.gov.uk/GenerateContent?CONTENT_ITEM_ID=33429&CONTENT_ITEM_TYPE=0&MENU_ID=13500)

    -
    A hate crime is a crime in which the perpetrator’s conduct is motivated, in whole or in part, by hatred, bias, or prejudice, based upon the actual or perceived race, colour, religion, national origin, gender, age, disability, or sexual orientation of another individual or group.

    Examples of hate crimes include assault or attempted assault with a weapon, assault or attempted assault without a weapon, sexual assault, rape, domestic violence, vandalism, harassment, sexual harassment, threats, intimidation, name calling, graffiti, phone harassment and text harassment.
    -

    If you ever feel in danger in a situation such as this, call 999 immediately and ask for the police. In this case I would still suggest that you report the incident to the police on 0845 113 5000, and campus security.

    20 Nov 2008, 14:10

  18. Simon Harper

    A colleague pointed out that you should really report this to the Students’ Union as well …

    20 Nov 2008, 14:41

  19. Oh, Thank you for the information Simon!

    This information would be helpful in the future indeed.

    Regards

    20 Nov 2008, 19:16

  20. Hrm… I think taking pictures aint such a good idea… if they see it… theres a possibility that they would approach u and i wouldn’t wanna imagine wat wud happen next~ Yeah Abhi…. the world isnt as beautiful as it seems~ tho it may b disturbing~ but c~ through this post u know that there are many people who cares about u~ think positive~ _

    and im so sorry to hear about kang fan’s car incident thingy… if i were in his shoes… i guess i would’ve been very angry and upset…thank god ur fine!

    oh and ritinna… just to let u know… it happens to many of us~ so dont feel too bad about it alrite.. .

    29 Nov 2008, 13:27

  21. Very True Amanda…..thank you

    30 Nov 2008, 20:38


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