Looks or personality?
No, I am not actually asking you, the reader, to answer this question (although feel free to), I am actually going to give my thoughts on it. Had you asked me this a few years ago I would have said, without hesitation, personality.
More recently my views on this have changed though, I know that many people would call you shallow for even suggesting looks are important but they have to count for something. I don't believe you can have a decent relationship if you aren't physically attracted to the other person. Of course ones perception of 'looks' may differ from the next, so someone I may think is extremely attractive might be called a minger by a friend. Thats fair enough but at the end of the day it's their looks that attracted me over the personality.
Recently I have been thinking more about this, if one was not to take looks into account then the idea of sexuality would be less relevant, if you don't care what the person looks like and care about the personality then surely its irrelevant whether its a man or a women. You may be thinking this is what bi-sexuals are like but I don't believe that, they must still have a physical attraction to both sexes without knowing their personalities. My main reason for coming to the conclusion that looks are very important is that I have quickly become friends with a girl from work, she is absolutely wonderful, I feel incredibly comfortable around her etc, I would even perhaps go so far as to say she could be my soul mate except for one little thing, I am not at all physically attracted to her.
So if I am attracted to her personality and personality is all that matters then surely I'd be happy 'going out' with her, of course I wouldn't, it would never work, I am gay and don't fancy her in the slightest, its a really strange feeling actually, I definitely think I have found my first close friend, apologies to anyone who thought they were a close friend to me but I haven't felt that way.